Hi everyone, I'm new to this so not sure if I'm posting in the right place or anything but I really need some advice and insight!
This may be long so I appreciate you all reading!
To begin, I am now 21 years old and expecting my second child - currently 19 weeks along. My son has just turned one.
I was first diagnosed with a prolapsed disc and spondylolysis in only one vertebra at age 18 after seeing the gp for unbelievable hip pain. My right hip is also higher than my left. My doctor recommended I quit my cleaning job to decrease risking further damage to my back, so I quit and done zilch. I fell pregnant with my son at age 19 and had a drama free pregnancy with no back pain whatsoever. My labour was over 36 hours as he was posterior, it killed my back and after his birth I couldn't walk for close to three months. I couldn't get up and down stairs, pick him up, bath him or do any basic tasks - was incredibly depressed and cried every day.
I begged for another scan because I knew something had happened to my back so I was sent for an mri four months after giving birth. I paid to have a specialist review my results as I was told by another Dr that my back was perfect and I found that impossible to believe. He went through both scan results and in the mri pictures found that I had two fractures in two separate vertebra but no damage to nerves which was a bonus! I left in tears. I know that it was my sons birth which caused the other fracture, there was nothing else I could have done to damage it otherwise because i'd done absolutely nothing after finishing my job.
Now here I am pregnant with number two and my back pain is excruciating, so bad that when I visited the midwife she thought I was in labour! I have been told I'll most likely experience another posterior labour and it has terrified me of what damage it could cause if I'm already in this much pain. I can't handle the thought of repeating history or making my back worse. I am so young and only have one spine, I need it to be as good as it can be. My heart breaks thinking what if I can't pick up my new baby!
Does anyone know if another posterior labour could cause further damage? I'm contemplating asking for a c section, I'd rather risk having weaker muscles than a completely destroyed back. At least I can build muscle back up and have core support through a brace etc. What are everyone's thoughts? Should I push for a c section? or will my back be ok? Its making me so nervous, sick, and scared. I don't want to have my back condition be ignored a second time by the hospital. Help!