Ok, time for a personal adult conversation. My partner was wondering about getting back into making love after surgery and how my doctor feels about it. Maybe it is just me but I am not sure my doctor understands because he has not been here. My partner enjoys physical touch but doesn't want to be intrusive and I am not sure what is considered "exercise" that I am to avoid. Touch is nice, playfulness is nice but actually making love seems daunting to me right now and it is hard for me to relax. Yet we are in love and respect each other so it is hard to not want to please. We have talked about this but any advice out there, other than continued conversation with each othere, on maybe even how to approach making love in a meaningful way following surgery? I don't want to be selfish or over protective but I also want to be present.