It's been a rough few days here for me.
My mother, who is 66 had surgery on Friday for what we thought was abdominal adhesions kinking her bowels. she had been dealing with intermittent "attacks" of this for a couple of years. The doctors have told her it was scar tissue, she would either ride it out, or be admitted until she had a bowel movement and felt better. Well, she had an attack about 10 days ago and was in the hospital again for 3 days, and she asked if they would do surgery to remove the scar tissue so that she could stop being sick.
So the big surgery day was Friday. When they got in, they immediately found the source of the problem. She had a growth in her small intestines. They did a resection, removed about 5 inches of her intestines and then sewed her back up again.
They are thinking it is a carcinoid tumor (cancer). This is a slow growing type of cancer that originates in the stomach, with the cells being formed by some type of a reaction to the digestive juices of the stomach. I am not real clear on it all yet, but little "seeds" will begin growing throughout the gastrointestinal tract as time goes on. So IF this is a cancer, it is going to be a hard deal for my mom. She recently had elevated pancreatic enzymes and also abnormal liver function tests. Has it spread to those organs? I sure hope not. I am trying hard to stay calm and not worry until we get the pathology reports back. But I don't know how my mother will handle having cancer. My father died from colon cancer. My mother-in-law died from ovarian cancer that had spread to her intestines. She ended up with a colostomy (bag) because they had to remove so much of her intestines. She lived for a year. I watched her get weaker and weaker day by day. I just can't imagine my mother having to go through this.
We'll have the lab tests back on Tuesday or Wednesday. Please pray for her. She and I are not real close, but I am the one who will be taking care of her. Her husband (my step-father) is absolutely useless when it comes to stuff like this. In fact, he wasn't at the hospital with her during the surgery even. He was angry that I stayed with her throughout the first 24 hours because he said she needs her rest and to quit bothering her. yeah right, leave my mother all by herself when she was so out of it to even know how to push the call button for help! I don't think so! I spent all day yesterday helping her, part of the night, back today for several hours, and I need to go back in later. I can't believe I am going to have to deal with Glen (step-dad) and his anti-medicine attitudes. He is a little senile and can be quite mean. He and my brother had a shouting match yesterday. We have not told him it could be cancer. mom doesn't want to worry him. I wish he would just stay away and let her move in with me for a while. But I'm sure he will be there fighting us on everything we need to do through this. What scares me the most is that he will try to manipulate her into not getting the treatment she needs. He says when it is your time to die, just let it happen. He rants and raves about how much money people waste on doctors, and has always said that if he gets cancer, just let him die. No treatments. I know that is what he will say about her.
Okay, enough of a rant. I am just worried, a little angry with my step-dad and also that the doctors let this go on for so long. She did have a colonoscopy a couple of years ago that came back clean, but this is in her small intestines, so she should have had an upper GI series. Oh well, can't change that now. I just need to be strong for her and help her get through it. maybe it won't even be cancerous.
Thanks for listening. Please pray for my mom.
Surviving chronic pain one day at a time, praying for a reprieve because living another 40 years like this doesn't sound too fun!