I guess I was to "sheltered" while growing up because I am ignorant when it comes to surgeries. I myself have never had to have a surgery until now that is. I am a 26 year old female and I have to have ACDF on C 4/5 and C 5/6 this coming friday and I am kinda scared. I am a single mother and I have a 8 month old baby with not much of a support system if y'all know what I mean. What I want to know is and please forgive me because I know this question is stupid, but I honestly don't know the answer. Why can't I lift anything over the weight of a half gallon milk? I mean I have to care for my baby. Why can't I vacuum? Why can't I stoop or bend? I'm so sorry for being this stupid everyone, but any info y'all can share will be sincerely appreciate it.