I get it. Here's to wishing you well!!

I think we all do that, and it is perfectly normal. The other thing that might happen as the changes to your (if you have one) "bucket list."

Lezzzeee..

Bungee jumping - off the list
Mount Everest - off the list
Swimming the English Channel - off the list.

Exaggerating of course to make a point. Our physical "aging" for activities got sped up, so this is just another area where our thoughts and feelings change. Sadly we each have to discover what helps us adjust and accept.

I hope you are feeling better soon. *HUGZ*

Brenda

the time bomb has gone off.
And folks like yourself understand it all.
So you decide to move on, enjoying what you can when you can.

Positive ideas

I like the way you post

Thanks.

But, I am struggling as bad as anyone to move on.

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Do you know my thesis before this bomb is about nostalgia. Who would have known that I would experiment it to the fullest in this days. Anelsen I could write exactly what you wrote. I feel totally identified. Sometimes I want to lie to myself and belief I will stop missing does comfty nights... For me the nostalgic button is on with smells, the sea, the friends, the music... I was afraid of going back to those places.

I have been visiting them again and is just a mixture of feelings. I feel good that I am out but then when back home I start crying. I will also continue to see what will happen.

Something I have been thinkin is trying to everyday do something good, something that I need to do, try to work on things I wanted to accomplish eventough I don't like how it feels. Because I guess that when time passes I will feel better if I did the things I could still do than to stay in a place of isolation.

Obviously I have think of moving into another place, to a simple community in South America and learn from different cultures... well just dreaming!

Let you know when I get there!

Hope you feel better,

Z

told a friend of mine when did it all to south, and I worked my way back to one act, one irresponsible and selfish act by another person that made all this possible.

the cut is deep and slow healing, but it has scabbed over and only every now and then does it open up, raw and sensitive.
Try to think on the "live" aspect of your life, what you can do, not what was.

there will be good days, and bad, but in all they are days you have to change as you will them.

good luck and blessings to you

I can relate to how you feel, anelsen15. Just the other day I reflected briefly on how, up to a few years ago, I was better able to walk 40-50 blocks at a time (granted, I had to briefly stop often to rest my aching back, but at least I got the exercise I needed and took in the sights as well). That same sense of nostalgia began to overtake me, but I didn't allow it to last because my pain-induced curtailment of activity has caused me to put more hobbies into my life, things I'd enjoyed doing before but my former lifestyle made me not have time for.

This Forum can promote personal growth. Anelsen15, I aoplogize for my blunt post of a few months ago in which I gave a curt response consisting partly of, "Count your blessings." Now I realize even more that we all need to vent at times, no matter whether we're frustrated at a doctor's decision or curtailment of activity. This Forum is THE best place for that.

Well I wish I had hobbies I could do now... Nope it is very difficult to sit and relax and read because of neck pain, head... I think about that a lot so many people get to do things they like sometimes thanks to an injury, they discover a talent. I think I discover all the talents that I had. I draw very well and now my pulse is all shaky because of meds and my head feeling in a different state changed how I perceive things.

Count your blessings is something I could do a lot, now I try but is good that you told that to anelsen because when somebody tells me that I feel like WOW do you really know what is going on.

I gues sometimes is better to ask the person is there something you like to do? Or when i was all depressed I think it was great when a friend did not judge me and told me, let's have breakfast I invite you. Or others told me no no no excuses come out with us... and then I felt my blessings.

Anelsen I hear you, I don't know what happen to you but hope there will be a day where you can feel better.

I read a post of Kevin about something outlook... people told him things he could do to feel better.

Essmoe29 I really understand what you say about count your blessings, and I know at some moments that help people, and also saying thanks... I don't want to offend but is just that when one is very depressed this kind of comment is so difficult to acknowledge and you know what I gues is specially when you have people around you that are young and healthy or just being able to cope with life in a better way.

Wish I had a magic wand!

Z

I am 23, and in the midst of preparing for music auditions on the drums, my injury effected my life. I can not sit at the drums anymore or work out or even do much more than walk. Even walking becomes a burden after 20 minutes. People around me are graduating college and I can't yet go to school because I can't sit or stand for more than 20 minutes, and sometimes I just have to lay down.

Do you ever feel jealous of your friends? I was a health nut while my friends would sit around and smoke cigarettes and I end up being crippled.

Did you ever get through these sad reflections?

What I can say is that I was havingg a diet that was helping. J started to work positive and move on with what I have but then the ghosts and the pain attacks me harder... like really are you coming to terms with this. The pain wakes the ghosts. I will start this week again trying to do things and the lists and those kend of things to move on... I will tell you if trying positive helps for me.

Z

can't be beat for coping with the frustrating and depressing lifestyle changes brought about by spine issues - especially when hobbies are out of reach for an individual due to inability to sit for a long time or just plain disinterest in them. In my case, distance walking and prolonged standing are my worst enemies whereas sitting provides relief.

A word of warning for those of you who like me obtain relief from sitting: Ron posted something a while back about the advisability of getting up from the chair every so often to walk around and stretch a bit, otherwise sitting for long periods can be detrimental.

All the time, I am not really jealous more envious because I just dont get the chance to change my perdicament. If pain levels were based on your effort to get better i would be healed by now but we are not built that way.