Ok, I can no longer do the job I have been doing for years

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dilauro's picture
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Ok, I can no longer do the job I have been doing for years

So, what would I really want to do. Due to the various spinal problems members have, many can no longer continue to work in the environment they have been.

So, now, its time, your SPINE says NO its all taking too much of a toll on you.

You are then faced with a couple of life's big decisions.
Right ahead in front of you are three doors, unlike game shows you do know whats behind the door, but you might not know how it will all turn out. Still, its decision time

So behind:

Door #1 Continue your current job and do the best you can until the day approaches when it is impossible to continue

Door #2 Realize you need a major change. So no matter how much you love your current job, you know you will have to make a change, because if you dont, you will only be suffering more.

Door #3 Give up, Throw your hands up and crawl into a box

I've read several posts and know of some acquaintances that were faced with this. The ones I know went for Door #2.
And now they are happier than ever and their spines are not getting beat up as much.

If you were put into this position, which Door would you take?

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I choose door number...

I choose door number...2. I remember before the spine issue, I've had to change jobs for one reason or another. I was always nervous - hate the interviews, don't know the culture, how do they conduct themselves, etc. But every single time I got a new job, it seemed like I loved it and the people more than the previous one.

Change is a very scary thing, but is also empowering and motivating. We all have different things we need to do and each one has something new to discover and to learn from.

Therefore, I choose door number 2.

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door number

Good topic, one that I have given a lot of time thinking about. It would have to be door 2 for me, to be able to keep from doing more damage to my spine and to ejoy what things that I can in the future. It means more now that surgery 3 is being schedualed at the moment. That is for another post.


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So what if...

You don't know if you can find a job behind door number 2?
What if door number 1 that you have is willing to let you sit and slowly go crazy just because.
What if, they pay you pretty decent money all things considered. Your liked and well respected, yet miserable?
What if your afraid that with your pain and inability to do much you will be unemployed should you walk out of door number 1?
What if there is an earthquake going on and you feel like standing in the doorway of door number 1. is the only safe place?

As you may read I am firmly entrenched in door number 1.
I am afraid that at some point soon they will kick me through it and I will crawl right past door number 2 and end up in door number 3.

I hope I make it through door number 2! That would be my goal.

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What a great

Wow Ron, what a great topic you have started. At times, I want to pick door #3 because of some of the very same thoughts that were expressed by wrambler. I am personally standing at door #2 but have yet to open it. I've been out of work since Feb of door #1. Door #2 is so scary and I am so afraid I will fail, I will be unable to prosper physically, mentally and financially. Do I go off disability and force myself through the pain to start a brand new career? This is the choices I am faced with everyday. I've gotten my license to sell insurance since I've been on disability and had 3 job offers. I have yet to commit to any of them because of the pain. I find out my true fate on Friday when I go to see a new doc (neuro). I am praying for no permanent nerve damage and just that my nerves are still healing from surgery. I've told 2 possible employers that I would be able to start at end of Feb. Still wavering do I knock at door #2 and go in, do I just stand at door #2 thinking of the what if's or pass on by and go straight to door #3? I am praying door #2 is the answer. I would hate to throw my hands in the air and give up on myself at 31 yrs old.

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I'm surprised

I'm really surprised there wasn't more responses on here as it seemed to be a great topic. I hope others join into this with their thoughts when they have time. I came back to this hoping to read from others struggling with the same thing and the choices they would or have made.

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door #1 to start

i plan to go back to work in a about a month. my body hasnt felt this good in years. will it last. that i dont know. ive been a letter carrier for 15 yrs. if it doesnt work out then i go to #2. i have 15 more yrs to retire. 6 if i take an early package. so im pushing to make it 6 yrs. after that i will find something else to do. so until then i will push forward and stay away from #2 and the box in #3.

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For Me

It has to be Door #1 because my job is home schooling my kids and it is not something that I can just stop doing. It is harder now to do it than it ever has been before but it is one of those cases where I must press on , no matter the cost.....unless that cost is their schooling suffering then I would stop. However , stopping means , me going back into the work force to be able to send them to private school because the public school system here is terrible....but if it comes to that then it comes to that and I will do what ever I need to do to make sure that my kids are taken care of and getting the best education possible....

Faith M
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Door #2 3 years ago

I was a preschool teacher need I say more? After 4 surgeries and working with a cane for years, I was injured by a child. I knew then I'd have to leave the job I loved, the risk was too high. The injury resulted in 2 more surgeries. I asked myself what else can I do? What other areas am I knowledgable in? I'm an avid gardener and wild about flowers. In my down times I had read and studied gardening ALOT. So I found a job at a flower shop! And I loved it until 6 mo. later when I herniated L4/5 a 4th time. They then let me go saying they really need someone who could do lifting. Permanent nerve damage after my 5th surgery had me filing for SSD. Since filing I've had a 2 level lumbar fusion and a 3rd cervical fusion. I may peek into door #3 but I'm never going through it! I have my court date on Mar. 9 wish me luck.

Keep Hope,
Faith M

itsalongwalk (not verified)
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Wow! Too may choices, lol!

I have stood outside door 2 now for 12 months.

I know in my heart that my previous job (nursing) is not viable anymore although the "aim" is always to get you back to work in a capacity. I was / am even willing to find a less strenous role within nursing but with my ongoing pain issues it is not happening.
Until I can function relatively normal at home without flaring pain I am not doing door one.

Door 2, I hover, pondering on a re-train but what?

Door 3 - I don't have a door 3, I have blocked it!

(Mind you, pondering on the outside for as long as I have makes you wonder if I am in door 3??)

I always think "tomorrow will be the day when I'll feel better and can get on with my life."

I like fast cars...and know that unless i work I can't afford nice cars so I am thinking time to make some choices....Then I have a bad day and the car cease's to temp me!

Actually OMG in this post I have just realised, I am on a round a bout! whey!

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I chose door #1

It cost me my life!
Good luck, Jim

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