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I need a hobby

doofddoof Posts: 131
edited 06/11/2012 - 7:22 AM in Matters of the Heart
It's been a long 2 year journey, I thought it was nearly over but apparently not!

It's my husbands birthday on Friday, he took up golf a year ago and is loving it. I went out with him this morning so he could choose a new club for his birthday present. We went to the local golf club, where he selected 4, he then took them onto the driving range to try them out.

I sat there watching him and felt really envious of him. I then realised that I really miss not having a hobby. Something that I can look forward to doing and improving at.

I used to have my own horse and would compete at eventing on a local level. Work soon got in the way of that, so I turned my attention to dog agility - age got in the way of that!! Then along came the spiney issues and life seems to have come to a halt.

I am lucky in that I can still get out and enjoy pottering in the garden and love walking my dog but I'd dearly love to get involved in a 'sport' of some kind. I'm not particulary fit, although I do try to get down the gym. Other than the usual physical restraints that we all suffer from, my biggest enemy right now seems to be motivation .

I think I might try and give golf a go, the only small problem could be that my hands feel like they are made of cotton wool and I keep dropping things ..... don't suppose that's too good a start for golf is it!!

I'm so so so so so fed up, I keep painting the smile on pretending all is well but it really isn't. I've got some nerve conduction tests coming up soon - it's this bloody waiting game that really pees me off.

Sorry to appear ungrateful, alot of you are so much worse off than I am. I've just had a pretty bad time lately, I feel guilty telling family and friends about it, they don't know what to say and painting the smile on is just too much effort right now.

I'm enjoying watching the Olympics right now, maybe that's what is giving me itchy feet again (well at least they are itchy and not tingly - for a change)!

Big sigh ...........



  • to hang in there doof. I can certainly empathize with where you are. We all want to be productive members of society and spiney issues seems to have robbed us of that. Start with something small and work-up from there. Best wishes.
  • is it,my father in law took me for a round of golf and refused to take me back because i would nt take it seriously and keeped laughing,so decided it was nt for me,ive started making the order of service and placecards for my sisters wedding and enjoy it,the local craft shop have classs for card making and jewellery,what about something like that,but i suppose ur hands might be a problem at the minute,come to ireland and we can both enjoy the best hobby off all SHOPPING,MIND YOU WE MAY BOTH DROP BEFORE WE SHOP WITH R BACKS LOL
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  • I can no longer do any of the things that I used to call hobbies. My problem is that when I get a hobby I throw my heart and soul into it and get seriously involved, so like you I have had to try and find something else to do. I'm very restricted just now because I can't walk far even with crutches, standing kills me after about 5 minutes and sitting for longer than 15 minutes is painful too. That doesn't leave much but I've started card making, a bit of knitting and some cross stitch. I feel like these are things a grandma should be doing, but it's something to keep me occupied!

    If you feel up to it, go to the driving range and have a go at hitting a few balls and see how you feel the next couple of days afterwards. If you're ok then go for it! If not, you will find something else, and once you do that enthusiasm will come back with a vengeance. Good luck and I hope you find something to do soon. Hugs, Spicey :)
  • I know it may sound silly, but if you husband plays on a course where golf carts are allowed, become his designated cart driver.

    You get to learn the game of golf, get outside in the fresh air and it's low impact. From time to time as Spicey says, try the driving range or putting green and see how your hands do. There are special grips that can be put on clubs, to keep a person from losing hold of them.

    Anyway, employ the theory of looking for a spouse. You know when we are younger we try and try to find the "right one" and that "right one" eludes us. However, as soon as we quit looking and quit trying so hard, we find out that the "right one" was there all the time.

    Best of luck,

  • Could this be a go'er? Good for the back, good all round, physically. There must be some nice places to go tramping too, over your way.

    ...just a thought.
    Keep positive!


    ...an old timer here and ex-moderator

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  • I liked Bruce's idea about tramping. One of the things I've been doing is taking photos. One of my friends who hasn't been to my area suggested I do a "Day in the Area Of..." photo project and its been super fun! I've met lots of interesting people in my community, plus I've been doing it on foot so I'm getting some good exercise too.
    Hope you find something fun to do!!
    ps. don't feel badly for complaining, its a really tough thing to lose the ability to do the things that make us happy in life, and we've all been there and understand...Good luck!!
  • Great suggestions from all of you.

    I'm seriously thinking of going out on the golf course with hubby, I know he will be chuffed to bits to think that I'm taking an interest in something he's doing.

    Your right Bruce, there are some lovely walks around here, although I think we are overdue packing up, taking doggie and all going off to a cottage on the cliffs for a long weekend.

    I'm feeling much better today. Work have agreed to pay for my tests and follow-up appointment, which means the waiting time is halved.

    Keep the suggestions coming - I think it's good to bounce ideas off of everyone :H


  • :) i am happy to know you have enough energy to take on an activity. that will help with the weight loss for sure. i have tried needlepoint but can't concentrate enough to follow the teaching books. just part of meds!! sounds like life will get better for you! ;;) Jenny :)
  • I don't know about over there, but in this side of the world, "tramping" means something else all together - very physical, but different.... =))
  • Yeah, but its also good for your back too........so I'm told =))
    Keep positive!


    ...an old timer here and ex-moderator

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