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What will your story be.

William GarzaWilliam Garza TexasPosts: 3,950
edited 04/28/2019 - 10:16 PM in New to Pain

Your new to this  and bewildered  about what is to become of you.

Read first

Research much

React late. Thats what the veterans to chronic pain and misery have done. 

Its about acting about the pain and not reacting...too...the pain.acting towards mitigating the pain and not reacting everytime it creeps up on you. 

Your stronger than you know..or rather,you will be stronger than you ever have been before and that is something tjat will help you hold your head up higher in your darker moments.

You..will re-find your self.you can create a new center away from what was..to what is and later to what will be.

Once you  strip away what ego,anger and frustration drive you to despair you will see a new possibility. 

You

ARE still in charge.

You still have control over many things,decisions and directions.

your first steps are not all your steps

Your first steps are merely that..moving forward into your life with and in pain...which is NOT the be all end all that it seems.

You fall..you get up..you learn to get better at getting up

And the more you get up,the more you will

You stumble..you learn to not be so hard on "you" and learn to catch yourself  and keep moving forward

You walk toward a goal you set..and reach it,than move on T at your pace.

 you will be left behind by others 

You will be left out

You will be.....

You..."will" your next move..you shake yourself and let the flotsom and  jetsam fall when and where it may.

You write your story

YOU....learn to be strong

YOU learn its ok to lean on others

Its not a hand out..its a hand up and you pay it forward by giving your shoulder..your hand to someone who will be desperately searching in that mortal darkness of fear,anger and frustration.

And you become a story some one..some..."they" will read

What will your story be?

What say you? Tell us your story and make it happen

William Garza
Spine-Health Mod
erator

Welcome to Spine-Health

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  • My words will not be as eloquent as Williams by all means but my story and legacy will be “ He didn’t let his pain run his life”. We all have a choice, Let your pain control you or take charge and kick pain back! I refuse to let my pain control my remaining time here on earth. Yes, I pay for it afterwards and expect it, but I smile and have the memories of a day fishing, or taking my grandsons hunting so yes the pain is worth it. When my time on earth is over, my grandkids as well as my grown children will know that I never gave up!

    DavidG

    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator

  • memerainboltmemerainbolt IndianaPosts: 6,473

    I, neither, will ever be able to put down my words like William does. He takes my thoughts and everything from my inner soul and puts them down for me. Always has and always at the right time.


    Sandra
    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator
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  • My story is a long one, as are many on this site. A story filled with searching for answers in dozens of procedures, surgeries, injections, drugs, surgeons, physical therapist, pain management, you name it, I've PROBABLY tried it. It's just been in the past year that I've comes to terms with this malady called chronic pain. I haven't exactly made friends with it :) but I've accepted that we are going to have to learn to live together in this body for the rest of my years on this earth. At 70, I've given up the search outside of me and realized the answer has to come from somewhere inside, from God given courage and grace and from the encouragement I get from friends and family and all of you on this site. Oh I'll keep striving for the best me I can be ,as William puts it, but I'm absolutely ready to give up chasing a cure in the next medical procedure.  No it's not everyone's story, but I'm content in my story, finally! 

  • William GarzaWilliam Garza TexasPosts: 3,950
    edited 05/01/2019 - 7:46 PM

    I never made friends with my pain Joanne

    But we are at. "Hot" border  At every chnce it flares up I am ready to fight tooth and nail spiritually snd emotionlly..and Tylenol-ly??

    Anyhow its a chapter a day and on how I am going to beat it in the end

    To the last minute my last chapter will say.

    Once your strong enough...you will always have enough to fight back. And also...our storys are not written in stone

    William Garza
    Spine-Health Mod
    erator

    Welcome to Spine-Health

  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 13,434

    William, I've been wavering back and forth about my story.   But I think I have finally come up with what I feel inside.

    I had some bad situations, my spine was not treated as it should have been.   But then when I had my surgeries, I neglected to treat my spine they way it should have been.  As a result, I had more surgeries.   I cant say that all of my spinal and joint surgeries were results of my not doing what I should have, but I do know that how very important it is to take care of your spine, your body and your mind.

    Finally, after dealing with spinal issues for so many years, I think I have that some what in control   I do what I can to make sure something else will not happen.  But Its not completely in my control, there are things that just happen.

    But I have also learned to take care of my body.   Learning the right things to eat, proper diet, exercise and keeping active.  For me, this is an ongoing battle.  I love to eat, I love food, wine and all the things that can create problems.   I really dont like exercise.  I do like keeping active.  To me, thats being in the yard, raking, mowing, working with all the shrubs and lawn that I love.  Planting herbs, harvesting them,etc.  Thats my idea of being active.   BUT its really not what being active is all about.  I should walk more.   At times, I get into a phase where I walk every day, feeling real good, but then something pops up and all of a sudden, I am not walking everyday.

    My mind....I believe I have that in total control.  I dont think about WHY I am where I am, WHAT happened, etc, but instead focus in on what I need to do to continue.   William, going back several years, your poetry and word did help me so much and looking at the proper things to look at.  I will always thank you for that.

    And most important is my support.  If it wasnt for my wife being my caretaker since 1978 and watching all the things I did or didnt do, I would be a wreck today.  I placed an unfair burden on her.  One thing for her to take care of the things I couldnt do, but, to fail on the things that were in my control, that was much more than what anyone would want to take on.   My children, well, my grown up children, have been with me from the beginning.  They understood my physical situation and have always been there to help when needed, both physically and mentally.

    My story, its about everyone that takes care of me.  

    Over 10 years ago, when I first registered for Spine-Health, I found another path.  I was looking for help and I did get it in so many ways.  Then over time, I wanted to give back.  My time as a moderator and as the administrator for Veritas-Health has been one of my brightest moments.   I feel that I can help others, basically from what I have experienced all these years.   I only hope that what I provide does help some folks.  I know that part of my posting will turn some people off, I might sound too this or too that...  I realize that, and I know I will never please every one.   But I try to provide insight into the world of spinal conditions.

    Last, I can not end my story, without talking about my supporting folks.   Liz, Sandra, William, Kathy, Chip and David have made my time on Spine-Health so much easier.  I've learned from them and I know we all learn from each other.

    William, once more, you know how to word things to get people to really think, I mean really think..   Thank You


    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 
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  • David .our stories are what we leave behind for the next generation to find meaning in i think.

    Dad was spine hurt at an early age for me and his handling  of great chronic pain  and later cancer...as a last lesson on how to handle oneself in infirmity.

    Your kids,your friends and family can either draw strength and  wisdom from your arc..or not. They see something in us we may not see...

    .


    William Garza
    Spine-Health Mod
    erator

    Welcome to Spine-Health

  • Ron

    I have been looking for years for the way to write about the other halves.

    The ones who stick by thick and thin

    In street talk..your "Ride or Die" which i take literally  and at the face value

    They will ride with you wherever and whenever or die trying. The other half that doesnt count the cost and makes life a blessing irregardless of the price they pay.

    A long time ago in a forum far far away i asked..stated

    Stranger passing by

    If i raised my hand in need, would  you look at me and walk on..or would you raise me..

    This forum has raised me many times

    I think thats why we are here

    To raise those who have fallen by the way..and in my book,those who are given much..have a geiss to give at least as much. Some of us are lucky to have some support or a lifetime of support and are able to give back what we get.

    This is our normal..we can...

    We cant...and we grow wise in the difference 

    We are the young in old bodies...we are diamond in that they have to look past the outside  to see our shiney...

    We are the old record

    The music

    Still good,still beautiful but the format has changed and we echo in quaint halls to them.

    But Spineys understand the music..from the quiet lows to the thundering crescendos..our lives the rosin on bow and string that is the music. Out in our gardens and lawns

    Toddle onto beaches and lakes to play..we are worn out precision..the breathy saxophones  they soon enough will understand..and did we teach them the steps???

    We are history written down every day here.  Each issue,emotion  and procedure survived and written down will be example and guide someday..and from that..I think what we do will become ..what is it...something to interpret and find answers to an issue.

    Some-one

    Some-when will have the flash of insight andhave an answer..instead of only questions.

    We are stars in a vast river of stars..we move amongst other stars and seen as a body

    To understand the river..you must understand stars

    Understand the 5 W's

    Understand the 5 stages

    Understand the interdimentionality, the dependance and the liminality

    Understand the starting point,the course and the ends

    And other motivations 

    And they will begin to see who and what we are


    William Garza
    Spine-Health Mod
    erator

    Welcome to Spine-Health

  • memerainboltmemerainbolt IndianaPosts: 6,473

    At 70 yrs. old, my story is of acceptance. I have been through all of the injections, meds that did not work, procedures and anything else I could try. Giving up has never been an option until now. 
    It's not giving up, but accepting the fact that this is what it is and I will have to live with it. My husband and family are my biggest supporters but the support I have gotten here always amazes me. I found that giving back is so much better than receiving. If I can help one person or make someone smile then it has all been worth it.

    That's what my story is about. Doing everything I can for myself, accepting what I can't change or fix and passing the knowledge to other members.

    Sandra
    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator
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    Please read my  Medical History
  • I would like to be able to write Sandras, She underestimates herself. It would be she was one of the toughest, hardworking, most compassionate woman that spine-health has ever seen! Even through out her own issues and pain, she always found the inner strength to give advice, comfort and compassion to any member who was asking or needing help. She always put them in front of her own needs!

    DavidG

    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator

  • memerainboltmemerainbolt IndianaPosts: 6,473

    David
    Thank you would be putting it mildly. I appreciate everything you said from the bottom of my heart. I guess I feel selfish if I constantly talk about myself, so I don't. There are so many great members here that have worked hard to keep this forum the best on the web.
    And yes, I do put others first, that is what we do. We take new members faced with our outcomes and try to keep them positive and not to give up.

    My grandson sent me a card when I was appointed a Moderator. He said ," It is amazing that you have taken the hardest thing in your life and turned it into knowledge to help others". And this is what we all have done, are doing and will always do. 

    Sandra
    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator
    ---------------------------------------------------------------
    Please read my  Medical History
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