I had a C3-C6 Lamenectomy done three weeks ago and now home for two weeks. My wife and daughter ignore me. They think I'm somehow faking this all! That my pain is not real and I'm just trying to get out of chores and work. My left arm is still has shoulder paralysis. My right hand and arm are numb but still fuctional. The pain is nonstop. I'm very angry and frustrated that they will not help me. We get in terrible screaming matches as my wife hides the remote or lavishes attention on our daughter and our dogs. She tells me I'm verbally abusive. I guess I am. I'm also moody and emotionally all over the board. I had a friend come in to do my laundry and get some of the dishes out of the sink as my wife left for the weekend and took my daughter with her. Yes we are in counceling and yes I'm depressed. How can I stop raging one moment and crying the next?