Maybe we should have a "Things happen for a reason, even if we don't know why" category...
Several months ago, I posted on the forum about how upset I was with a NS consult that went very poorly, how terrible he treated me, disrespectful he was and how he told me surgery wouldn't help me and there was nothing he would do. I was SO upset, there were no words that would console me. People said "things happen for a reason". Ooooh, I wanted to punch them. I had been in pain for so long and I couldn't use my dominant arm, I was tripping, I couldn't walk at times and now a Neurosurgeon told me too bad. :''(
Well, fast forward to September. I went to my primary care doctor with my reports in tears and asked for his help. He took one look and said, you have to go to Dr. T (I don't know if I can use names) at Barrows. I got a referral, got in to see him within 2 days of him reading my films. He was wonderful, said of course he could help and surgery was the ONLY option.
I'm happy to report that 6 weeks post op (3 level ACDF with titanium plates) that I am doing great! Back to work with full use of my arm and leg, hardly any pain.
I am so blessed that the first NS "couldn't help me". Otherwise I wouldn't have been led to the wonderful NS who COULD and DID help me.
So...things happen for a reason, EVEN if we don't know why at the time.
Many blessings to all during this holiday of Thanksgiving and always!