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AnonymousUserAAnonymousUser Posts: 49,321
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:25 AM in Good News
Maybe we should have a "Things happen for a reason, even if we don't know why" category...
Several months ago, I posted on the forum about how upset I was with a NS consult that went very poorly, how terrible he treated me, disrespectful he was and how he told me surgery wouldn't help me and there was nothing he would do. I was SO upset, there were no words that would console me. People said "things happen for a reason". Ooooh, I wanted to punch them. I had been in pain for so long and I couldn't use my dominant arm, I was tripping, I couldn't walk at times and now a Neurosurgeon told me too bad. :''(
Well, fast forward to September. I went to my primary care doctor with my reports in tears and asked for his help. He took one look and said, you have to go to Dr. T (I don't know if I can use names) at Barrows. I got a referral, got in to see him within 2 days of him reading my films. He was wonderful, said of course he could help and surgery was the ONLY option.
I'm happy to report that 6 weeks post op (3 level ACDF with titanium plates) that I am doing great! Back to work with full use of my arm and leg, hardly any pain. :D
I am so blessed that the first NS "couldn't help me". Otherwise I wouldn't have been led to the wonderful NS who COULD and DID help me.
So...things happen for a reason, EVEN if we don't know why at the time.
Many blessings to all during this holiday of Thanksgiving and always!


  • That is an awesome story. Thanks for sharing that. How inspiring for Thanksgiving. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • I like it!

    AND really glad your doing great!
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