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Anyone know what happened to this woman from here? (link enclosed)

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  • Is anyone trying to justify her cruelty towards each and every one of those people who tried to offer her help and well wishes.
  • Hello.I offer support all over this forum.Not because I want anything back,but because it helps me feel better thinking that I might help somebody in even a small way.I'm a slow typer and not that well educated..only a little nursing after HS,but I have quite a bit of common sense.Only a few times have I disagreed with another person openly on the forum,and when I am wrong about something I have no problem saying so-and making amends for my behaviour.

    If this person came back and saw this thread I would offer an apology and my support in the most sincere way(and mean it).I would ask about her surgery,work and recovery.But in my experiences-and they are many-do you really think a person with such an super woman ego would admit it if it took her longer than her proposed week to recover,or that she had to resort to pain medication..because I don't see that happening.In her most positive fashion she went out on a limb to make others-people who perhaps took longer to heal,and people who were not as positive(in her opinion),feel as if they were not up to her standards.

    That is the way I saw the posts.Not at first maybe..at first all seemed positive.Yes,this could be someone who is scared as Dr Eric and another suggested,but who isn't scared? I'm afraid of many things,but when I get feedback from people here at S~H I am grateful and I appreciate the time and thought a person took to think enough of me to write it down.I didn't see any gratitude or appreciation.

    Now that I've said all of that I will admit that I had no purpose for posting my initial post in this thread.I think I was wrong and truly have no idea why I posted or for what reason.I think it was immature on my part to be honest.Now when I came back and read all of the other posts-to which I mostly agree with but it is not important,just an opinion-gossip,I felt inclined to add this only because I posted previously.

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  • Thanks for acknowledging the fact that this person could quite possibly come back and view this thread.

    What kind of precedence is being set here? If a discussion over how fast any of us could and do make it back to functionality is desired, then let's share our personal experiences.

    "C"
  • Well said. I agree with everything except I, personally, wouldn't offer her an apology until she apologizes to the scores of people she tore up.

    I don't think it was immature of you to react with emotion like a human being. I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think anyone's point is to gossip about someone who is just a screen name... They stand to gain nothing from it. I think people are just shocked at her behavior. So I do commend you for doing what you feel is right and being humble... But you shouldn't look in the mirror and tell yourself you did something bad. You didn't.
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  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 13,528
    except to re-hash some inappropriate posts and too much bickering. I am not referring to people who have been posting here, but from the original subject.

    Looking out for the best for members, this thread will be closed.
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 
  • ***Really....everyone needs to take all this negative thoughts and feelings and make them positive. Is it that people have been so so so negative for so so so long that they have forgotten how to be happy and have positive ideas and thoughts. The negative energy must be exhausting, maybe that is why some of the people aren't back to work and living happily.***

    ***This forum doesn't have a whole lot of positive feed back for other people it seems some not all just want to have company in their misery!***

    ***I won't use this surgery for an excuse not to work or to miss several weeks/months of work***

    ***Also...my interesting statements are true statements. For some people it is a walk in the park,,,,for some its not it is according how your brain thinks.....negative or positive.***

    ***One more thing you decide when you awake from surgery how this is all going to go down. Either you do what the doctor ask then. Or you can wait until you feel like doing it.
    Your choice the best choice is to do it now not later. You decide if you will be able to have range in your neck or not! I will be the "right now person"***


    ***I am the glue because I own it. That is probablty the difference between you and I. I don't depend on others to do anything for me and I don't need a pity party either I am very independent, I have always been that is why I am where I am now. Yes, I am superwoman, I have always done for myself never asked for anything from anyone.***




    ~I didn't realize that it's MY fault I'm not back to work yet. Or that it's my own fault I can only touch my knees and not my toes. Or that I still have to take pain medication, because I can't stand up straight when I don't. We are all lazy. negative pieces of crap who choose to wallow in self pity... THAT is why we aren't back to work... NOT because we've just had our bodies cut open and metal drilled into our spines.

    Every reality we offer someone is really our attempt to drag them into our web of misery and suffering. Really. We only open our mouths to bring others down, and we don't want to see anyone doing well... We couldn't POSSIBLY be offering our thoughts as a means of support.

    I don't know about you guys, but I definitely lay around feeling great, but use back surgery as an excuse to sit on my behind. That's all it is, really. an excuse. It sounds good and it flies, so run with it, right?

    The entire time I've damned myself to feeling like crap. I knew my surgery would fail from the start, and that everything I hoped for was never going to come to fruition. I knew that I was weak and over sensitive and used pain meds as a vice so I don't have to deal with my own inner discontentment.

    None of us listen to our doctors. We all think they're kooks and using us to make money. Really, we don't even think we had issues to begin with. Our doctors are full of crap, and we make up own limitations and recovery rules. That's why we don't work a couple weeks after having screws and rods put into our spine. It's our choice, really. I mean, the doctors words are like foreign language to us.

    We ALL want pity parties... We all depend on others... We all rely on others, and ask the world of them. None of us are independent, and none of us are self sufficient. We are all weak, codependent, blood sucking leeches.



    I'm sorry, but anyone who knows my situation and has followed it from pre op to post op knows that I have a GREAT positive attitude toward my recovery. Has anyone heard me feeling sorry for myself and looking for sympathy? No matter the setbacks I have faced, I still look forward to the future and what it may bring. There are times, like any human being on this site, I worry about what the future might bring. But anyone who says they don't is a liar. You might not consciously acknowledge it, but it's human nature to have some level of fear toward the unknown. However... My positive attitude hasn't miraculously healed every feeling of pain. I don't expect it to. So my attitude must not be positive enough, right? I must be doing something wrong. It must be my fault that I am not running marathons right now. If I believed I could run a marathon, then my spine would heal it's other issues, grow a solid fusion right now, and heal my muscles. But I don't want to believe my thoughts are that powerful. That has got to be it.

    This post really pisses me off and this woman pisses me off, because she is an embarrassment to those of us who have sound minded positive attitudes that offer support to others, not condescending sarcastic remarks just because someone else may feel defeated that day... Or maybe might not see things right up to my views 100 percent. She insulted everyone that heals like a human being. Everyone that hasn't magically made a full recovery in the snap of their fingers. And you know... She blames it on us. So we have no right to feel pain... We brought it upon ourselves.

    I don't know why this post pisses me off so much... But it does. I can't wrap my mind around it. It is so despicable and disgusting that it literally makes me sick. I know I could just as easily NOT click the Spinehealth bookmark on my bookmark bar, and I could ignore the site for a while and pretend like this thread doesn't exist.. But I can't. I have had quite a few bumps in the road, actually... And you know what... I didn't even want to tell anyone. No real reason, really, except for the fact that I didn't want to maybe put a dent in the hope of another. I know that my recovery has been a lot less problematic than most, and that I could share my feelings and thoughts on my bad days, and not be judged for it... But I couldn't bring myself to do it. I kept telling myself, well, maybe if I don't acknowledge the pain, and don't tell anyone else about it, I won't feel it. It doesn't work that way. I have been as optimistic as possible. I really have. In the hospital, I didn't refuse to get up the next morning and walk laps, even though my pain wasn't under control, by any means. I sucked it up and did it, because my doctors said I needed to. My only frustrations were with the way I was treated by hospital staff and their lack of regard for the way they treated me... Forgetting my meds for hours, blowing my vein up into a huge bubble and when the Valium was burning the inside of my hand, not even stopping to look and just walking away, knowing my ride home from the hospital was also the caretaker of my child, and knowing he was going to be home from school soon, and taking 3 and a half hours to type up ONE page to discharge me, etc. I never blamed anyone else for my pain. I never expected anyone to fix anything for me, or to make my life any better. I don't rely on anyone but myself... And it was hard for me to take 4 days to sit in a hospital bed and have no control over what goes on in my home... I couldn't take care of my boys like I do normally, and do currently. It is INSULTING for someone to insinuate that if you don't bounce back in an unbelievable amount of time, that you are doing something wrong, it's all your fault, and you are a needy little thing that can't do anything for themselves. Maybe it shouldn't bother me to this extent... But it does. It's like, I've had enough. I don't think I'm superwoman. I do, however, get tired of people judging me for not working. It's not just this delusional woman, but other people in my life, as well. I am sorry that I still have pain, and that my neck is getting worse, and I'm getting pain in my arms again, and that my balance is so off I have literally smacked my head on a wall while standing up. This entire damn time... I have smiled and focused on the good. I have shared the gains I've made... And tried to keep the bumps to myself. I have been taking care of myself since a week and a half post op, and made my boyfriend go back to work early. I requested to start physical therapy early. I can't wait to be able to work again. So you know... I guess this woman just caused me to snap. It's like... Is this NOT good enough? What more can someone POSSIBLY ask of me? I am doing my freakin' hardest and sucking it up, and I am being so optimistic, but YEAH... I do still hurt, I do still back track, I can't work yet... I don't want my head in the clouds. I even asked for people's opinions, on whether or not I was being unrealistic with my expectations. So you know, forgive me for being fed up. Forgive me for giving it everything I've got, and basically having someone insinuate that it's not good enough. That it's my own fault I am not 100 percent cured. That I could be, but I'm too weak to be.

    I just can't fathom how someone can find those comments a positive attitude. She has the worst attitude I have seen out of an adult in my lifetime. She is one of those people who is bitter and angry and smiles to mask it so nobody notices. SHE is the miserable one who wants company. She is the one who has to talk so much non-sense in hopes of convincing herself to believe it. NOBODY here is lazy. NOBODY here deserves the pain they are feeling. NOBODY here damned themselves to where they are today. NOBODY is to blame for their body's choices and inability to do what their mind tells it to do. There are those of us who have busted our butts, and have held on tight, and have done to the best of our ability in whatever areas are under our control. There are those of us that don't focus on our own pain, but try to encourage others and offer any possible solutions we can, anything to help them find solace. Forgive us if we don't take too kindly to being insulted... Maybe we don't have any energy left to handle her crap in a productive manner. I don't. I'm sorry if that's not good enough for someone else. But I have enough on my plate as it is, and I can only do so much. I am humble enough to admit I am not superwoman, and I cannot do everything.

    I had peace, and I am tired of people destroying it with their condescending, arrogant attitudes.

    When I say I apologize, I don't mean it in a sarcastic, passive aggressive way. I mean it in a... I am too tired to fight you on this way. On a, if you think I am wrong, well... You're entitled to think that, and I'm sorry my views can't appease you. I really am. I wish we could agree, but the world doesn't work that way. We can't all be looking through the same rose colored glasses.


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