I posted the topic because I'm sure, from reading the posts, many of you are like me and can't be the people we used to be. Whether you call it a matter of spirit, or a matter of the heart, it's something we all have had to adjust to, or are adjusting to.
I'm on the other side of it most of the time, but there are still times when I dearly miss the person I used to be. Going through it felt almost like a death and I was depressed a good portion of the time. For awhile I called myself a proffessional patient. I lost a career of over thrity years. Thought at least with that title I had a job.
For awhile I wallowed, :< longing to be able to do the things I used to, have the same energy I used to, be ready to start the day when my feet hit the floor...It was a long list, and it took a long time to get over losing so much of myself.
I don't know if I just got tired of hearing myself whine, or if I finally accepted that I couldn't be that person anymore, either way, I started coming up with some new ideas, new ways to spend my time, and things I could do that didn't aggravate, or make the pain worse, and made me feel useful.
Maybe, by sharing where we're at we can help each other through the process. I wish I had known you all were out there at the beginning of all of this. It probably would have helped me a lot. >:D<