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Already had surgery, dont know what else to do, please help!

AnonymousUserAAnonymousUser Posts: 49,321
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:26 AM in Lower Back Pain
In September my husband was changing his mothers tires and he felt a snap in his back. We went to the doctors that Monday and they gave him pain medicine, and a referal for a MRI, we went to see a spine specialist in Annapolis and he basically told us he wouldnt operate because he was too young, he was 29 at the time. He told us to go and have the epidural shots. After the shot, he was in more pain than ever. I forgot to tell you my husband was addicted to oxy's last year, so when the doctors were only giving him percocet and they dont understand why he was in so much pain still. We have gotten into huge arguments about telling the doctors the truth. We have a 1 year old and a 5 year old. He has not worked since september. On November 12th he had surgery to remove a portion of the herniated disc. It was simply amazing to see my husband play with our kids for the first time in 2 months. He went and had another MRI a month later. So he has one from before and after the surgery. He went to his doctor, who is a retired nurosurgeon, and he said did he even operate, the MRI's look the same. Well come to find out the surgeon didnt tell us that eventually the rest of the disc would hit his nerves again, from moving, it starts to slide out over time. So know once again he can not stand up straight. Last night I woke up and he was in the living room crying, I feel so bad for him. I made him an appointment with Dr. Specialal in Annapolis for Friday. My husband wants to go and do the fusion but after researching it all night, I dont know what to do. Its really causing problems in our marriage. I am just mentally exhausted. Please help!!!!!!
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  • Not all surgeries take the frist time-there are many "redo's". I had one again on the same area. And like your husband my herniated disk was only partial removed and could come back but I was willing to take the chance that I forgo the fusion one more time. Fusion can cause other problems down the road-usually another operation above or below the fusion, so I want to avoid that as long as possible. But some people cannot-their work or bodies make it necessary for fusion. Find a very experienced neurosurgeon-tell him the truth that your husband had a hard time getting off oxy before for pain issues, not recreation! But he did get off it and he will get off it again.

    Of course most of us here are not doctors or nurses, but we have been in your shoes or your husband's shoes so we understand. Hang in there-it often takes time for these back issues to be resolved, while he is in pain, it may help to be supportive and accept that he has terrible pain but remind him there is a good future ahead.

    Keep working on those doctors-I found some so afraid to give me pain pills that they would rather I suffer-after all it won't kill me-but the younger ones are being taught that pain is a real detriment to overall health, too, so go to a young one if you can. And you can always go to the ER-I did and they really helped me. They can tell from your blood presssure how much pain you are in! Mine was like 150 over 110 so they knew I was not lying when I said I was at a 9 or 10 on the pain scale :) Good luck to your family!

    Ask your husband to come on here too if he can.
  • This is a very, very difficult decision. Your husband could be better, about the same or worse. The only trouble with "worse" is that it pretty much ruins the possibility of getting better. I am not a physician but I would be reluctant to "fess up" about yout husband's addiction issues. There may be someone on this forum who has had similar problems and could give you better advise than I on this topic. I know that I have never been addicted to narcotics or anything for that matter (if you don't count shopping) but its clear its a real issue for the docs. And what, exactly is your husband to do if he has a history of narcotic addiction and now has a medical problem that gives him great pain? I do not know the answer and if someone here does, I acquiese to their opinion, Mine would be not to say anything. Back to the fusion, it is extremely iffy (unlike what the surgeon might have told you or what my surgeon told me, it just that other treatments will not cause PERMANENT changes to his spine. Try everything else first. I wish I could tell you that there is a pain management doc or ortho or neuro who would not hold the addiction against your husband, but I think that individual would be hard to find. I would keep it to myself and realize that you may have to deal with the consequences later (i.e. tapering off the meds) but keep in mind, I don't have the problem, I don't really understand. I know others who have had addiction problems say they can never take narcotics again but, what are they going to do, have surgery without pain meds? I hope someone with experience in this area responds but my advise is not to rush in to any decision and if you're not sure what to do, don't do anything. My thoughts and best wishes are with you. Susan
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  • Thank you for your advice. I told him he should have told his doctor, because. When they are subscribing him 100, 10mg percocet that are supposed to last 1 month there not even lasting a week. It's rediculous. His mentality for pain pill is so high that the percocets dont help the pain so he takes so many of them to just help him for a half hour. I just wish he was back to his old self again! Not only does he have a back problem, he has a drug issue.
  • Marie1928 said:
    In September my husband was changing his mothers tires and he felt a snap in his back. We went to the doctors that Monday and they gave him pain medicine, and a referal for a MRI, we went to see a spine specialist in Annapolis and he basically told us he wouldnt operate because he was too young, he was 29 at the time. He told us to go and have the epidural shots. After the shot, he was in more pain than ever. I forgot to tell you my husband was addicted to oxy's last year, so when the doctors were only giving him percocet and they dont understand why he was in so much pain still. We have gotten into huge arguments about telling the doctors the truth. We have a 1 year old and a 5 year old. He has not worked since september. On November 12th he had surgery to remove a portion of the herniated disc. It was simply amazing to see my husband play with our kids for the first time in 2 months. He went and had another MRI a month later. So he has one from before and after the surgery. He went to his doctor, who is a retired nurosurgeon, and he said did he even operate, the MRI's look the same. Well come to find out the surgeon didnt tell us that eventually the rest of the disc would hit his nerves again, from moving, it starts to slide out over time. So know once again he can not stand up straight. Last night I woke up and he was in the living room crying, I feel so bad for him. I made him an appointment with Dr. Specialal in Annapolis for Friday. My husband wants to go and do the fusion but after researching it all night, I dont know what to do. Its really causing problems in our marriage. I am just mentally exhausted. Please help!!!!!!
  • Marie
    I hate it for your husband. I know what he is going through. Year 2000, I slipped and fell on ice and found out I had 3 slipped disc, the doctors did surgery. Well, November 18th 2008, I had to do the lumbar spinal fusion. Trust me it is ROUGH, alot of pain after surgery. It has been approx 7 weeks and the doctors will not let me go back to work until bone graft starts fussing together, so I have to go back to the doctor in 6 more weeks (feb). Still having pain, but it is a different pain than I had before my surgery. I stayed in the hospital 5 days after the fusion surgery, they sent me home with a walker, raised tiolet seat and a shower seat...trust me you will need all of it. What I am trying to say is that it is a very long recovery. You may send me questions if needed. Good Luck.
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  • Perhaps your husband should tell the doc that the Percocets are not convering the pain. Just say, "Doc, the meds you gave me just aren't taking away the pain." As my back issue worsened, I needed stronger pain meds and I told my doc. I'm just so afraid that if you bring up the addiction, many doors are going to be slammed in your face. I almost always believe honesty to be the best policy but these guys are so suspicious of drug seekers I don;t know if you would be sabotoging your care. Please if there is someone out there with this similar comment, please post your opinion. I would not be inclined to explain why you think the drugs aren't helping. The former addiction problem might not even be the reason. Best of luck to you and let us know how things work out. Susan
  • Marie, personally I have not been addicted to pain medication but I do know someone who has been and then had to go through major back surgery and had to take oxycontin and other controlled substances. As a recovering addict, his decision was to tell the doctor, to be truthful about the amount he was taking, and let someone else hold the bottle of medication for him and provide the doses (that someone else being either a mentor/sponsor or spouse) Sometimes, however, as the spouse and being the dispenser of medication...that could lead to more marriage problems. In my opinion, someone in this situation may want to get involved with a recovery program and have a sponsor help with dosing narcotics. I think the pain is too bad to battle emotionally and physically by lying to a doctor or by not admitting need for help. Only my opinion and hope it helps..

    marram
  • yes it is a very long recovery, but i thought i was wonder woman and could do it all went back to work in 3 months, i had a slip/fall on oil in 2004 was in lite duty 2 years later fell again 0n 11/21/06 had an L-4 L-5 S-1 with rods,was in the hospital 3 day the pain was different but worse so terrible as much as it hurt i walked all the time me and my walker now in july had several test discgogram ct scan mri u name it found out the doc took disc out did not replace with bone, and the level above is shot, now i will have to have reconstructive surgery and go a level above . the pain is all over my hip the burning pain throughout my legs it feel like iam getting a knife through my butt my knees . ect ect now i am scheduled for a revision on Tuesday i am scared nervous excited and ready to go on with my life!! this time i am in no hurry to go back to work doc said recovery is about 6 months!!! at least i know what to expect but the thought of doing it all over ohmigod, painful good luck to all of you... you must stay positive and have faith i need sum kinda relief and hopefully tuesday i will get it
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