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Grunting, groaning, crying, sniffling, noises of pain, owwwing, husband is getting tired of it.



  • Happy Easter Bunny!!

    Up until the last oh...4 months, most of my back pain was the "more common" everyday stiffies, pulls etc. Well, now I have disk issues. Before this, I could rake and such, get a bit sore, and then be done with it. Now (thinking of your mobile home and size), I just sweep the dang bathroom and I am hurting for like an hour or two! Even though your place is small Bunny, sweeping, laundry, dish washers, picking up after the kitties - some of the WORST for your back! I think that is were my odd level (L2/3) is like everyone else - baaaadddd juju beads for the back!

    Oh before I forget, I want to applaud your hubby! 7 Nature trails! Awesome!!! That just sounds so loving and supportive, and warm. :-) Thanks for sharing that, wow, what a smile that put on my face! Stuff like that makes for the beginnings of great romance novels! (G)

    Okay back to your lifestyle. Couple the sweeping and such with the small living space. You might not walk around in between these chores as many in a regular sized home - might also add to making it worse. Try some baby steps if you will. Don't sweep at all this week, and assuming your other activities didn't change, any better?

    I hope the holding your breath as a brace helps. Yeah I hear ya about the tears, kind of hard to stop those puppies. I hope you have a relaxing pain free weekend!! *HUG*

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • happyHBmom said:

    This is the rest of your life. You'll find that a life without pain is much better, even if it doesn't include some of those things in it.

    But, as an aside, I have been known to lay prone on bleachers in public when it got too bad. Other people be damned ;)

    HappyHBmom nailed it in her closing in my mind - "Other people be damned"... SSSSOooooo true! I can't lay on firm surfaces, but I am NOT too proud to grab a piece of wall outside a store I was shopping at to try for relief! Other people don't have your health issues - they'll get over it. If they don't, THEIR problem!

    So True Happy, so true!!! :-)

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
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  • I have laid on a bench in a public park and cried like a toddler having a trantrum---that is when my discs must have actually ruptured, but I didn't care, it hurt sooooo bad. I'd hate to break down like that in a mall, LOL, but hey, it could be worse, right? I don't mean to complain so much, I'm just so relieved I found this forum, and it's a huge help to finally be able to talk about this with other people who have similar problems.

    I feel like a drunk person, wanting to tell you all that I love you!! LOL Thank you, everybody, for the support your provide me and others here. This type of social networking is a wonderful resource.
  • I noticed when I was on one pain med(ms con)I moaned more... I told my Dr. I moan all day long. Then she switched my pain meds and I only moan not so much now. Also now when I lift the laundry out I hold my tummy in and have less pain on the back. Of course I can't afford a cleaning lady but looks like I'll have to find someone to do the vacuuming.
    Good to hear about the kittens they're so sweet I want one! I have a kitten just turned 6 months and was looking for a playmate for her. Happy Easter! Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • hi bunny,
    I know how you feel i went thru back surgery in 06 and been dealing with neck and back issues since spring of 04..
    So as you concern for your hubby is like mine..do they get sick of see and hearing us in pain..yes they do..there frustration comes in they don't know what to do to fix us.
    i have not worked since last june ..i have more back and neck issues and been diagnosed with fibromyalgia..my husbands and kids are alot of times at their wits end..more duties for them that i used to do which i think is a good thing..instead of me doing for everyone i have been trying to deal with becoming the new me..
    As my hubby had always handled stress he does the same with me..sleeps or shuts down..but thats way he handles his stress,,
    i do not worry anymore what they are going thru or how i'm affecting them..i do my best to help myself..
    weather it be in here,or helping others in small ways..
    I have my youngest at going to be 10 and i know it hurts to see mom cry we have talked about it..alot..and when i have bad flare ups due to weather or many other things..i go be alone.. i do not cry or carry on in front of him.(.my son has seen his mom go to er and had to go with me once via ambulance..cause nobody was around to watch him.).i try not to hide much from others they are grown and we talk alot about what i'm going thru..My son and i talk about alot different things and he has told me how he hates to see me in pain but how i have taught him so very much ..how to be strong person..be brave and he likes having more responsbilties..
    my family this time around with my health..is doing better ..due to me and i told them the old person i was is gone so..we have to accept things the way they are..
    my hubby goes out socially if he wants and we go together even if only time i can is for hour on a sunday..and we are grateful for that hour..
    talk talk and more talk is only advice i can give ya..if they listen they listen..if not well at least your not holding things inside..
    i use to hide all my pain inside..but with the grown ups i do not..only in front of my son and my grandaughter..i do ..she is 4 and me moaning and crying..will only harm them...
    i am here anytime for ya..i do alot of reading and rabblin (as you can see)so pls feel free to pm me vent or chat..
    take care of you
    neck,bone spurs pain started 04, back issues and fusion l4,l5 06~hardware removed.
    good few yrs. 09 pain sharp, numbness feet,legs, diagnosed fibro, neurop. legs.lung issues.
    daily goal do good thing for someone.
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  • I just don't go to the mall.

    I still don't quite get why you are pushing yourself to do all these things when it hurts so much? Is it all necessary? Or are you just trying to hold on to the old life?

    Do you have a physical therapist who can help you adjust all these activities to be more gentle on your back?
  • You guys have all been so sweet and supportive.

    I think it was HappyHBMom that said computer work causes her pain? In my case, it's the opposite. The initial sitting part really hurts, but once I'm down, I can easily sit here for hours, and sitting forward seems to be the only way I can be pain free. And we all know sitting forward is VERY bad on the spine. I have sat forward all my life, since I was born legally blind---and I have always sat right in front of the tv on an ottoman, forward. Same with the PC. Last 11 years, sitting in from of a PC.... but it doesn't hurt to do so. Isn't it odd how we all have such painful back issues, yet some of us CAN sit in a certain way and others cannot.

    My friends, when I went to their house the first time, insisted I put my feet up on their ottoman as I sat on their couch, I was in such pain that day, and I said absolutely not, no thank you! And they were shocked that it would cause me more discomfort. The lady, she even works at my doctor's office!! SO you'd THINK we'd all suffer in the same ways, yet we are all so different.... no wonder back problems are so hard to diagnose and repair!
  • Bunny,

    Same here for me! If I try to sit back or "proper" posture when I sit, back, outer hips and down the legs - not good. If I sit with my right leg folded up (foot into my other thigh), and lean forward about 20 degrees with my upper back arched a tiny bit - as pain free as I can get, and like you, once in that position, I can stay put for hours. Any other sitting position, 15 minutes tops! I can't find many with the levels I have, so for all I know this is a "normal relief" position? I just know, it works! Great observation Bunny. :-)

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • I sit forward or crosslegged too. If it gets too bad, though I just have my netbook in bed with me ;) I also always sit shifted to the left.

    Actually, the funny thing is when I'm hanging out at the barn and talking, I often find a pole to rest a leg on, and I'll pull it all the way up around my hips and rest like that. Everyone thinks it's odd, but way more comfy than just standing!

  • Whatever works for you, HappyHBMom! Isn't it funny how we all have our own special positions to get into?

    I have found that when walking a lot, sometimes just squatting down relieves the pain, but only while I'm down like that, but, it looks like I'm squatting to pee, hahahah!
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