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LasVegasLLasVegas Posts: 95
edited 06/11/2012 - 7:48 AM in Depression and Coping
Prior to car accident, had a very active sex life :)

However, the lumbar pain has limited sexual positions.

The pain pills have limited male arousal.

Lumbar Pain + Pain Pills = Minimal Sex/Relationship Issues :(


  • Sorry LasVegas,

    Regrettably, a lot of us are very restricted on them ummm... (G) activities. Because of my issues, we found the pool was a good place, but now the water is too cool to go in. Sniff... You just have to get inventive is all - does that work for all of us, nope, but life is an adventure. :)

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • =D> Hi there
    When the pool gets too cold to go in, the Hot Tub works quite nicely. Nice and warm too. Plus when you get out into the cold. (Mine is outside) Your pores tighten up really great. =D>
    We had to figure out something:
    I have my back issues and hubby has
    Carpal Tunnel and RA in his hands. :T

    Remember- desperation will spark your gentle healing hugs.

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  • Sex - remains one of those things that does flip the endorphin button. I keep active and explore!

    I have had issues, related to this for 8 years, yet I am happily married for the last 13. Communication and an open mind is key!

    One thing I would encourage -is exploration of energy play - and gentle forms of play. One thing that does not help - is impact. So - it is about being gentle on ourselves, in all ways.

    Key - in our situation - is always being my partners friend. If there is something up - either of us can just look at each other - and say "I need to talk to my buddy". That is something that we both protect for each other, as such - ANYTHING is on the table for discussion. Not argument - discussion! We had those kinds of things, with our X's. We do not do that to each other.

    Trust is something very important - we have to know that we can talk about anything. I know, that there have been times when I have not wished to chat, because I am afraid of the answer. What I have discovered, is that I am placing too much -on what I think will be the answers, rather than just trusting my gut, and talking it out, with my partner.

    Have a discomfort reduced day.
  • We've toyed with putting in a hot tub. Since on my retirement annuity I am paying for our new RV, if one is to be put in, the hubby gets to fund it. I do like the concept though. :)

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • she prescribed cialis and said it is common for pain meds to have this negative affect on men regardless of age. she ordered a ekg for my heart because cialis may have some side effects related to the heart. other than that, she wants to see me in a few weeks and says she guarantees my sex life will improve :)

    any guys here use this cialis before?

    any women here have experience with guys who have used cialis?
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  • No - never used it. Dont need to.
  • Be very careful when using the Hot tub and pool for these activities. I'm not going to say don't do it, not even going to say I never have :D

    There are very real risks involved, especially in the Hot tub, lots of little nasty things love to grow in hot tubs and they can kind of get, shall we say pushed into places they would otherwise not get a chance to visit...

    Pay close attention to the correct chemical levels in the tubs and pools and if something seems to burn, itch, or whatever outside the norm. GET IT CHECKED!

    As for the original post, I can 100% fully commiserate. I have been pretty much chemically neutered by this whole mess. At some point I intend to ask about Cialis, in fact I did once upon a time but my doc would not give it to me till he researched all the possible interactions and I have not been back to see him, so...
  • What you need to do is have your hormone levels screaned, expecially your prolacin and testostrone.
    Long term use of opioids causes a drop in your hormones.
    You can get twice monthly injections or now there is a gum out to use that will bring your hormones back up to normal. The gum is called Striant.
    Also have your vitamin D checked. If it is low your Doctor will start you out on a treatmant plan then you can awitch to over the counter vitamins.
    Long term opioid use can bring on osteroprosis.Your Doctor can treat this also. It will also bring on early menopause in women.
    Once you get your hormone level back up you will feel so much better. You will be less tired, hair will be thicker and you men will feel like an 18 year old again!!
    Your PCP can do these tests for you.
    I am amazed PM's never tell their male patients about this. Ladies need to be screaned too.
    Best of luck everyone
    Patsy W
  • patwhite101 said:
    It will also bring on early menopause in women.
    Oh good grief, just another thing I get to look forward to? lol

    Anti depressants especially, opiates and pain wreak havoc in the libido area, not just in men, but women as well. Just ask my hubby... I wish I had an answer (and so does he!!)
    APROUD CANADIANveteranButNOTa doctor, my thoughts are my own
  • Yes Kelly....Women too, need to have their hormones screaned.
    Pain meds do wreck your libido. Your Doctor should help you out there.
    There is help for men AND women.
    With proper treatment you should begin to feel like your old self again.
    Also have your vitamin D checked and a bone scan done.
    Talk to your Doctor about all these tests. He can do them or will send you to someome who will.
    Extended use of opioid can wreck our bodies.
    But it can be treated.
    Best of luck.
    Patsy W
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