Maybe it's just me, but my hubby and I have to occasionally talk about the medications I'm on because over time he slowly seems to forget that I need medications to function throughout the day - sometime less, sometimes more.
One of the main reasons that this comes up with us is that I have days when I seem rather spacey. He mentioned the other day that I seem this way and accused me of overmedicating. I had to explain to him that I'm very aware of my medications and how to take them, when I need them, and that it's a rare day that I even take the maximum dose prescribed. But then I said to him, "Don't you have days where you get out of bed and can't seem to wake up all day? Where you feel kind of out of it and just not yourself?" He said, "Well, yes, in fact I'm having a day like that today."
So I told him that I, too, am human like everybody else and have those same kind of days. It doesn't mean I've taken too many meds, it means that I'm like you - I have a day now and then when I just can't seem to wake up and I'm not myself. I'm really no different that you are, but I'm a prime target for accusations because I'm on daily meds.
Part of this came from the fact that he's pretty ignorant about medications, and because I'm having additional problems above my cervical fusion that are causing some pretty difficult pain, my doctor has added Mobic (anti-inflammatory) and Lidoderm patches to the pain meds and muscle relaxants I already take and have been for quite some time. He didn't understand that Mobic is nothing more than an anti-inflammatory, and the Lidoderm patches are like Novocaine. Neither of them have any mind altering effects. My doctor knows the pain I'm in and is simply trying everything in the book to help manage my increased pain until I'm able to try injections.
Basically I'm on the same meds I have been on for a long time, but adding these two kind of threw him over the edge.
So I guess the point of this thread is that we occasionally need to explain to our loved ones (or whoever else) about our meds, what they do, and that like any normal human being, we have our spacey days from the get-go - we get up that way just like they do. We're not always "on our game", but neither are they, and it's not due to medications. Then, when a new med is added to the mix, it's helpful to explain to them what this med is, what effects they may or may not have, what it's intended to do, and why it's replaced something else, if that's the case.
I've found that at this point, three years into my spine problems, that my hubby understanding that this is a lifelong problem for me is not the biggest hurdle - it's now come to discussions about depression and my medications.
Explaining everything about our meds so that a normal can understand can make a huge difference in how they see it - and us. And explaining that we also have days like they do where we simply aren't ourselves aren't necessarily the meds - we're human like they are in many ways.
PS - Personally, hubby and I have worked out the issues - I've done some things that have helped stave off the depression and I've already told you how we worked out the med concerns. We're now ok and he's back to being understanding and caring without accusations.