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Chronic pain and sex

JuanCarlosJuanCarlos Posts: 13
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:00 AM in Chronic Pain
Sex is part of life, moreover, sex is part of anyone's healthy life. However with pain, who is in the mood? And it's not just the pain during the act, it's that terrible delayed pain... Any hints? No need to be graphical though it would be appreciated ... :wink:" alt=":wink:" height="20" />


  • not only is mood a problem the motion of the ocean does not rock the boat if you get my drift. ever since my last fusion, i believe a nerve was cut and it is semi workin'. also testerone level is 30 which is way low. i take supplements for testesterone but no interest. in the past it made me feel like a 16 year old and sometimes nothing at all.mr dr says the oxycontin lowers the testerone levels but I don't know.
    oh wellie well
    I have 4 fusions from L5-3, the latest last May '12 where they fixed my disc that broke.They went through my side this time. I take 40 mg of oxycontin 4x a day and 4 fenatyl lollipops 300 micro gms 4x a day.
  • Yes, it sucks. It is pain and the worry of hurting yourself and your partner's worry of hurting you.

    Can you take 'pre-emptive' medication? I was taking an advil or 8-hour slow release tylenol beforehand just to make sure that any post-activity inflammation was kept to a minimum. Also, get up and walk afterward. I realize not ideal but I've found it's key to ensure you don't hurt so much later.

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  • i am sure i knew what it was once {LOL}have not been able to have sex for at least 6 years due to pain and not being able to move as you need to during sex .many back pain patients are unable to manage the act .its just another thing that back pain take from you ..anyone that still have a healthy sex life is very lucky and there back has not deteriorated as much as others .so NO sorry can't help
    1997 laminectomy
    2007 repeat laminectomy and discectomy L4/L5
    2011 ALIF {L4/L5/S1}
    2012 ? bowel problems .still under investigation
    2014 bladder operation may 19th 2014
  • OMG :) I had it for the first time in over 2 years on Valentines Day this week. We had been talking up this "date night" for about 3 weeks and were committed to going through with it. I had alot of anxiety over it.

    I had a few glasses of wine (ok'd by my dr for this exact occation btw) and we used a lot of pillow as props (sorry for the gorry details) but it worked and it was fun :) just like it used to be. We have been married almost 20 years now.

    Hubby has had a prescription for viaagra since he was diagnosed with diabetes 12 years ago. Those little blue pills work really well for him. I wish there was something for me. I have ZERO sex drive. I also have a lot of guilt about it and feel it is unfair to my husband who had always had a decent sex drive. We are like really good room mates and we need to have more intimate times even if he's just rubbing my ankes & feet.

    He had said something in a fit of anger a few months back that really hurt my feelings- he said "that our sex life was over, your crippled and I am a diabetic we better get used to it". I am not ready to accept that. I know he is not and I could see pain in eye when he said it so I started picking up sexy night gowns, fixing the bed room so it looks more sexy and less like a hospital bed.... Mostly I started talking about wanting to give it another try (not for me really but for him). Dropping some hints and he was all for it.

    If you guys have pain while doing it try other positions until you find the best configuration for you.

    Of course I have been in uncontrollable pain all week and I am not certain if it was the sex or the medication change (dropped zanaflex for flexrile).... Called the PM today but she was gone for the day.

    We are supposed to have another date tomorrow or Sunday night. We will see how that goes.

  • Sex is i believe a very important part of a relationship,
    Pain of course can lower anyones sex drive,

    The emotional stress from the pain can very much affect the mood,
    But unless you are paralized from the waist down or there is a direct medical cause for not being able to have sex, there is no reason other then those reasons not to,

    I think sometimes the over worry about geting hurt is an issue for many people when most times if they already had surgery and spine is stable enough, the worry about geting hurt is simply emotional only,

    If you are already hurting sex wont kill ya, It might be slightly awkward to get started and sure you will feel some pain and muscles hurting because those muscles have not been used for a while,

    But once your body endorphens kick in you would be suprised how much pain releif you get from sex,

    Its probably the most healthy thing for the spine geting some circulation to those back muscles that have been weak from previous surgery,

    So as long as some relaxation is used to get in the mood is all thats needed,

    Or just pick up some porn movie with your partner and git-ir-done!

    Good chance you wont have any problems with sleep either after sex,

    Also the more you get use to doing it the easier it will get, Of course i am refering to who has not been doing it for a long while,

    Consider it like a once a week pt or more and your partner is your spoter as they do in weight lifting. Lol
    Flexicore ADR 2004 resulting nerve damage l4l5 Fusion 2006 same level, 2009 hardware removal with lami !
    2012 scs implant ,
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  • You say total imposibility because mobility and the pain correct?

    What if the pain got beter now after this last surgery?
    Maybe for right now its too soon after your surgery but maybe anothe 6 months of healing and some pt to get slight mobility back even if its not where the levels are fused
    then is the posibility there?

    Flexicore ADR 2004 resulting nerve damage l4l5 Fusion 2006 same level, 2009 hardware removal with lami !
    2012 scs implant ,
  • If you're a man and your testosterone level is at 30, you have none, you're way past too low. In fact at that low you probably have more estrogen than you have testosterone.

    There are no pills for Low T so forget the herbal hype here. They don't work. They may help with libido but they are not increasing testosterone levels to any useful amount.

    I've been through this whole drill and got it under control. My testosterone level is now way above normal. Constant tired, depressed, uninterested in most things, inability to enjoy or want sex, etc... Most all gone. Makes a world of difference.

    Do your chronic pain meds hurt in this area. Yes they do. They are known libido crushers.

    I see a urologist but there are others that deal with this. Your GP is not the person to resolve it.

    If you're a woman the same holds true for estrogen levels. Same reactions pretty much. Dealing with it is a bit different.
  • My desire for sex is here and GONE - just like that! The desire lasts for maybe 3 minutes, so I tell hubby "act quick" lol ;)

    But most of the time I force myself to start and then as long as my pain meds are working I am happy I did a few minutes in to it.

    Our sex life is for the most part planned. I take my meds and do nothing else, wait for them to kick in, and make sure that afterwards I can either lay in bed for a few hrs or/and go soak in the tub.

    We also have a water bed so I don't have to do much "work" ;)

    L1 - S2 "gone" useless in 1 way or another. DDD. RA. Bone Spurs. Tons of nerve damage/issues. Stenosis. Both knees replaced. 50 yrs old. I had a great fall (hence my user name) at age 41 and it has been a domino effect every since.
  • 3 min? Wow. Talking about a quicky!
    Flexicore ADR 2004 resulting nerve damage l4l5 Fusion 2006 same level, 2009 hardware removal with lami !
    2012 scs implant ,
  • Sex I can't do it any more. But boy can i dreamn and talk about it (lol)

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