Hello all, I posted a few times prior to my surgery and haven't since. I think I stayed away from fear of reading anything scary.
On Tuesday it will be 6w since my T9-pelvis fusion. I'm out of paid time off at work and they offer no benefits (STD or LTD) so if I want to be paid I have to return.
My doctor did say it was early for the consideration of the major surgery I had and that if I wanted to go the STD or LTD route on my own (since work doesn't have these benefits he'd help). But I also understand that process isn't overnight and unfortunately we are a two income household that relies on both incomes. (And disability doesn't even pay 100% from my understanding).
I work a desk position and they are unwilling to let me come back "part time". Their expectation is that when I come back I'm able to function and do my duties and not use this as a crutch. Not that I want pity, but some understanding.
I've been out of the house a handful of times since my surgery, but for anyone that has had this surgery you can probably relate that even the little things are tiring. Even a few hours of running some errands (shopping...something enjoyable!) can completely wipe me out. Going back to work isn't going to afford me the luxury of taking a nap every few hours.
Does anyone have any advice? Did anyone go back to a desk job this soon? Any tips on how to survive. I'm literally full of anxiety thinking about it. Even thinking about waking up and going through the process of showering, fixing my hair/makeup, putting on "real" clothes. Then walking back into a job that can be a stressful environment. All while putting on a smile and not allowing my recovery to bleed into the expectations of my job.
I think (after now having this surgery) 6w is too soon, but I also like to have money to pay my bills. So any advice would be more than appreciated.