I'm new to this forum. I see that people sometimes comment that they are long past needing sympathy from others. I feel like that as well. However,lately I wish I had some empathy. Maybe it's that piece of someone in chronic pain to want people to know how you feel. It's not tangible, they cannot see your pain. Many people doubt it. I was in a servere accident almost 7 yrs ago. I fell from a tree stand,thanks to some bees, and fractured my spine, as well as other less severe injuries. I had a spinal fusionS10-L1. At first everyone rallied around me. Their goal was to help me get «better». When that never happened, people either smothered me as though I was sick or stopped talking to me all together. I had a 2nd spinal fusion L4-S1. After this surgery, I couldn't work, the pain was chronic and I needed morphine daily, any little thing caused a flare up. I always say my accident is the gift that keeps on giving. Surgeries, injections, Drs visits, MRIs. I had to ask some people not to visit me every single week, as if I'm ill. I wanted to be seen as me again, not the girl with back problems. The past yr the pain has progressed. My pain is worse, activity was low. I tried every pt, drug, exercise. The winter bums you out too. Lately I just feel isolated. When people say...how are you...they don't want to hear...well I didn't sleep at all, I can barely move today. They want you to say I'm fine. When I have an injection...they ask me each day...are you better?...did it work? That's the few people who even ask about it anymore. So I'm reaching out to others. You 'll understand and empathize. You have good days and bad days. I think things have gotten harder over the years. How do you do it? Most of the time I get up each day ad put one foot in front of another. I used to be so optimistic. I'm not sad...I'm just blah.
Fall in 2007- broken spine. Spinal fusion T10-L1. 2nd fusion L4-S1.failed back syndrome