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An unwanted houseguest

TarenTTaren Posts: 524
edited 04/18/2014 - 3:33 AM in Chronic Pain
If anyone hasn't seen "THE BEAST" lately, there's a reasonable explanation for this. He has been alive and well living here with me for almost 2 weeks now. When he first showed up, I recognized him and knew him well, I just said, "hello and asked him how long he would be staying this time?" I guess he's gonna let me know on that, because he's still here this morning!!

I can't get a minute of privacy for him, he's right with me in everything I try to do. I can't even go to the bathroom without him going with me. I went to Ohio last weekend and he went too, in fact he sat right in the front seat with me, he was constantly poking me in my rear-end, he was squeezing my legs, causing numbness and tingling, he must of also came armed with a hot poker because he was constantly sticking it to the top of my thigh and groin area.

When I try to lay down to go to sleep, he decides it's not time for sleep because he wakes me up and wants me to get up and sit up with him or walk around the house, which I do, because I try to be accommodating, thinking if I'm kind enough and don't show too much stress and aggravation, he will leave.

Mornings, when I get up, evidently he doesn't sleep in because by the time I open my eyes he has already been messing around, by tying these awesome knots in my spine, and the second my feet touch the floor he stabs me in my legs, more so in my right one!! He insist that my right leg, from the knee down, stays at least 10 degrees colder than my left one. He reminds me to go ahead and take my morning meds or he will get really angry and do things to me that I'd rather not experience.

He's such a boring houseguest because while he's here he doesn't allow many fun things, he tries to control my mind by making me think about him too much, anything I try to do he sneaks in my head and reminds me that he's still here!! He doesn't like it when I try to take a walk, he will insist my legs start aching so badly that I have to come home and sit down or lean over my bar for relief. I try to make him leave by using my ice packs, rice socks, heating pads, laying or sitting down, stretching, hot soaks, and walking even though this seems to make him the angriest!! He just wont go!!

Any other ideas on how to get rid of this unwanted houseguest aka, "THE BEAST"???


  • my mom said houseguests were like fish, after a couple of days they begin to stink and you need to throw them out. i just ignore it no matter how bad and try to keep busy. easier said then done but it works for me. i just go on and do what i always do, tick off my wife. that is a good distraction for me. seriously folks, just try to keep busy no matter what and keep your life as close to normal as you can. i just had to pay$650 for a ticket yesterday and to go to traffic school i opted for the computer school since i can't sit in one spot for a long time. so paying the money really took my mind off of my pain. it kept me in a foul mood the rest of the day and off of pain. it is like the old saying if your head hurts, hit your hand to take your mind off of the pain in your head.
    I have 4 fusions from L5-3, the latest last May '12 where they fixed my disc that broke.They went through my side this time. I take 40 mg of oxycontin 4x a day and 4 fenatyl lollipops 300 micro gms 4x a day.
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 10,760
    edited 04/18/2014 - 3:48 AM
    really doesnt have any manners. That was evident during his recent stay with you. Problem is, he always doesnt like to leave. He has it good, making you really uncomfortable, squirming and in a lot of discomfort and pain.

    Thats what he LIKES!

    How to get rid of him? You cant just ask him to leave, cause he wont. You sort of have to trick him to leave
    • - Hot and Cold treatment to your sorest area (he doesnt like the North or South that much)- Music and Aroma Therapy (he doesnt care for most must and cant stand essential oils)- More bed rest or down time ( he gets bored, because he wants to cause more discomfort when you are up)- Easy Stretching and Slow walking (that will get him, he only likes to run)- more
    The more are personal things you can do to get more comfortable. Everyone has their own specific ways.

    The good news is that he will leave He gets tired of the same thing, torturing the same person, he likes to move on to someone else. The bad news is that you know he will return some day. Best you can do is do everything that makes you stronger without impacting your condition

    Taren, I understand your house guest and what he does. Its never easy, at times it really just depresses you. We all know that we deal with our daily situation. Some days better than others. We adjust, we know, we have to ... And we enjoy life... But then for some reason, some unknown, the Beast comes into your life again. I only wish I knew a way to keep him out permanently. I've been at this for over 30 years now and he still is smarter than me.
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
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  • TarenTTaren Posts: 524
    edited 04/18/2014 - 4:21 AM
    Yep, Jon, he's definitely starting to smell up the place. It's time for him to go, imo, but he seems to have other ideas as far as that goes. I try to keep my mind off the pain, I swear I do, but like I said no matter what I try to do he sneaks back into my mind and reminds me his butt is still here--I try shoo'ing him away, like an aggravating fly but he's a might bigger than a fly. Lol @ ticking off your wife as a distraction from your pain, I don't think I wanna tick my husband off, he tries to help me too much. I think I will leave him along--for now anyway, but if "THE BEAST' stays much longer, I can't be held responsible for what I may do :-/ Sorry, to hear about the $650 traffic ticket and traffic school, but at least your found a distraction, huh? What did you do? Did you get caught speeding, trying to outrun "THE BEAST"?? (That doesn't work either)

    Ron, you are so correct, he has no manners at all, so rude. I do everything I can come up with to make him leave but, as you say, he likes hanging around making a person as miserable as he can. He likes doing as much damage as possible before he leaves.

    I agree, the stretching and walking is the best, it's obvious he doesn't like that a bit, based on the way he makes me feel after I do it......It appears what makes him the angriest is the best thing you can do to make him leave. He hasn't won this yet, even though he and I are into a 2 week war here. He has won some battles but so have I.

    I am sorry about your 30 year battle with this thing, Ron, but as you just said, "We adjust, we know we have to..And we enjoy life!! That is what I have been doing for the last 10-15 years. "THE BEAST" is definitely smarter that we are, he knows what he's doing, that is obvious. Ron, if you figure out a way to keep him out, permanently, please let me know.
  • What did you do? That type of distraction may send the Beast away temporarily but when he comes back you'll be poorer. There's got to be a less expensive way to deal, understand making your wife mad, but facial repairs from a frying pan to face can be more expensive than your traffic ticket.
    laminectomy c4/c5 2008, ACDF c4-c7 Jan 20 2014 sched
  • unfortunately my wife has learned to hit me without leaving any marks. i have nothing to show for her hits with a frying pan to my head. she took classes at adult ed to learn how to do this. wham, there she goes again. ouch
    I have 4 fusions from L5-3, the latest last May '12 where they fixed my disc that broke.They went through my side this time. I take 40 mg of oxycontin 4x a day and 4 fenatyl lollipops 300 micro gms 4x a day.
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  • MSGMSG Posts: 296
    edited 04/18/2014 - 5:39 AM
    has a couple of cousins, frustration & helplessness that come around to visit our significant other. He doesn't like to play alone, he calls in his cousins to mess with the heads of everyone around us.

    Well, for as much as my hubby does without the beasts' cousins hanging around him, when they do come to visit him, I'll take my lumps like a good wife :)

    Ps- love that we can all find a little humor in this; when I was working I always used to say the day I lose my sense of humor, is the day they better call the men with the little white coats!
    We can't always control the cards we are dealt in life, but we can control how we play the hand
  • The men in the little white coats are is his cousins, frustration and helplessness..They are the ones that wait outside your door in case you loose the battle inside your house with "THE BEAST" they come in and get you...It's best to keep his cousins outside the door, that's what the meds, stretches, ice, walking, TENS and heat are used for--its all about keeping them all at bay, just enough for you to continue living your life ;-)
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 10,760
    Ancestry or other sites to trace the family background of The Beast. Tracing his blood line, I have found
    Elizabeth Bathory among his descendants. Maximillen Robespierre was a cousin on his father's side, while it has been rumored that Nero was his actual father, but both Attila the Hun and Genghis Khan have claimed staked to that fame.

    His brother was Tomas De Torquemada, but that Beast doesnt like to talk about him, it seems that his mother favored Tomas , so The Beast set out to out do his brother.

    Hence, we have the Current "The Beast"
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 10,760
    learned from Vlad Dracula
    That says it all
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • ron rare form today. my beast is a sissy. i have learned to put him in his place. like i said before the only one i am afraid of is not the beast but my wife, i wear the dress and she wears the pants. have great weekend and i will put the beastess to bed now.
    jon grrrrrr..
    I have 4 fusions from L5-3, the latest last May '12 where they fixed my disc that broke.They went through my side this time. I take 40 mg of oxycontin 4x a day and 4 fenatyl lollipops 300 micro gms 4x a day.
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