I have seen this a lot on our forums....spouses and families who think we should be back to normal and back to all our pre-surgery activities a few weeks after surgery. I am going through this myself. Just because the surgeon "releases" you to increase how much you can lift or increase activity slowly does not mean we can go bike riding, clean the house top to bottom, ride scooters, stay out dancing until late at night, go on long hikes, etc. right away! In reality it is more like 6 months to a year before we can resume MOST of our normal activities and some things we can never do again to protect levels above and below our fusions from being stressed. I am not even 6 weeks out yet and my husband, whom I love dearly, is already antsy for our life to go back to normal. They do not believe US when we explain it takes time to heal. I wish our surgeons would sit down with spouses and families separately from us and tell them what to expect.
My husband is retired (older than I am) and I retired 4 weeks intoy FMLA for this surgery. I want to get going with retirement also but many things just have to wait. I keep having to remind him that, while I was still working full time, I nursed him through rotator cuff surgery (we had our first snow the day after surgery and it snowed constantly all winter meaning I did all the shoveling that year) and lower back surgery 8 months later (I did all lifting and carrying for a couple of months). I know he does not realize that those times adversely affectedy spine and probably contributed to the severity of my neck issues, and I would NEVER say that to him). I just wish he would be more patient with my recovery and know I am doing all I can do without threatening my recovery by overdoing. If surgeons would talk with spouses and families maybe they would understand better and be more patient.