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The Anger



  • Kirstij79KKirstij79 UKPosts: 160
    edited 12/17/2015 - 3:06 AM
    I've had chronic pain for 17 years but only found it life changing in the last 3.5 years but all I feel is guilt, massive guilt, & burning sadness.
    Is The Anger yet to come?
    It looks frightening, I don't want to go through it.
    Kirsti x
  • William GarzaWilliam Garza TexasPosts: 3,933
    edited 12/17/2015 - 4:56 AM
    I think we all process the different parts acording to our nature/nurture
    And how we feel what parts we do...the severity and duration are the same.

    The sadness to me is the most pernicious part of this red martyrdom
    But they can eventually replaced by peace inside

    But you have to want this peace
    Seek it
    And cultivate it

    William Garza
    Spine-Health Mod

    Welcome to Spine-Health

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  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 7,385
    edited 12/17/2015 - 6:43 AM
    While in the worse of my depression, I learned it was from my anger turned inward.
    I was more comfortable with that ...than expressing my anger outward.

    I agree with William, above...and so well said.

    Anger is appropriate response often times.
    When we see or know of wrong, it is most appropriate to become angry.
    It often leads to steps to right a wrong done either to ourselves or others.

    And anger has been shown to be a predictable part of grief from any kind of loss, death, divorce, loss of a part of ourselves due to pain.... We are human and with emotions and we are always in process.

    But to have peace, contentment, in any season of life, I needed to learn.
    I wanted it. It was unpleasant, to say the least, for me to live in chronic state of hyper vigilance or apathy.

    I don't mean it to sound trite, but to live day to day, has released me to experiences of joy that are still here for me.

    Honorary Spine-Health Moderator
    Please read my medical history at: Medical History

  • itsautonomicitsautonomic LouisianaPosts: 2,561
    Spineykd23, I feel like we are kindred spirits. What you say about your belief in yourself is exactly how I feel. I've never failed at anything I put my mind to ore injury , as long as I had myself I could get through anything and I'd never let myself down. Then I got hurt and had to depend on others, jeez what a letdown. I had an un breakable faith in myself prior to all this. A lot of it comes from your past , coping mechanisms learned , let downs etc
    I do not believe in God but I would never judge a person who did as it may bring them peace. Shoot I know a Buddhist Whois the happiest person I've ever met they practice getting joy from others success which is cool.. But I just really wanted you to know I can really relate to what you said.
    Do your due dilegence, trust you know your body and question everything if it does not fit. Advocate for yourself and you will be suprised what will be revealed trusting your body and instinct.
  • Max_LeeMax_Lee New York, United StatesPosts: 389
    A lot of my own anger comes from people not listening to me or seeming to minimize my problems, as well as not wanting to have that lack of control over my body. I also hate what I've become: bitter, angry, snappish. I didn't even begin to realize how negative I am until I was asked why I was so angry by a doctor who wasn't listening to me, and when I calmly and respectfully explained that it was because he wasn't listening to me, he repeated the question! I suppose as at the time, I was an IET Private and he was a civilian, he believed he was within his right to blow my pain off and maybe he did feel as if he was doing his job; but it hurt me nonetheless.
    I hate not having control. I hate being angry at a world that seems to ignore how I feel. I've been told I'm worthless and pathetic so many times that I believe it.
    You're not alone in feeling angry.
     "The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the
    brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do
    not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.''-Anonymous

    My Story: https://www.spine-health.com/forum/discussion/90688/pain/neck-pain-cervical/help#latest

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