Ok--so our family is divided. My sister monopolizes most of my mother's time with her kids and her problems. My brother moved to where my mom's living for a job a while ago, and has increasingly become disgusted by it all. It's one of those situations where it doesn't matter what you say--it falls on deaf ears.
Mom and I were talking this morning about a friend of hers who is ill from cancer due to smoking cigarettes. Let's just say it's an understatement when I say I hate that habit with every cell in my body. Mom told me to go to her friend's Facebook page, and show people in my life who smoke what it can do to you. I set up an account, and took a peek.
My mom has a Facebook page, too, so I decided to check out what she had going on. As I was scrolling through her timeline (?), I see a picture of her with my sister in a city that is 45 minutes away from me.
My mother never said a word about it. They were 45 minutes away, I was recovering from surgery and despite the crap with my sister, it really would've meant a whole lot to me if I'd meant enough to my self-absorbed sister to pop by on the way to their destination--which was visiting the friend I mentioned above who lives in my state, too.
I wouldn't have expected a long visit. It doesn't take long to show people that you care. I wasn't that far out of the way from their destination. I feel like whatever excuse I would hear at this point wouldn't be enough to explain that away. It wouldn't matter if I confronted my mother about it, either. I'm really upset, and as horrible as it sounds, I don't even want to talk to mom for a bit.
I know it shouldn't be hittng me like it is, but I'm devastated. I'm heartbroken. I'm crying as I write this. I've been an absolute emotional wreck at time because of all this spine crap. I guess it just goes to show you how much my sister is in control of my mother.
I also suppose that's what I get for lurking around on Facebook.
Thanks for reading.
Kimmy72, Spine-health Moderator
Firm believer in PMA!