Caring for Someone with Back Pain

Is someone in your life suffering from back pain? While it is disconcerting to see a loved one in pain, there are things you can do to help them gain control of their pain as they progress through rehabilitation.

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Actively caring for a loved one with back pain will benefit you both.

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The tips here outline how friends, family members and colleagues can make simple changes that show the person with back pain that you do understand and want to help them.

Learn as much as you can about your loved one's back condition

At Spine-health, we've always believed that patient education is key to getting the best treatment. Help your loved one find the right specialists and get the right treatments by learning as much as you can about their condition. This website is a great resource. Start with our Spine-health Video Library. You can also join our Forums to connect with people dealing with similar issues.

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Rearrange the household to minimize back strain

It isn't obvious how much bending, lifting, and stretching one does every day until you see someone have difficulty doing these activities.

Like most of us, people with back pain are most comfortable in their own homes, and making a few changes around the house can minimize how much they have to do. As a first step, inventory what the individual uses each day so you can rearrange furnishings for maximum comfort. Some ideas:

  • Move frequently used items to chest height. Daily dishes or the coffee pot in the kitchen should be easily accessible (not require reaching or bending), as should everyday toiletries in the bathroom. Cabinets in both rooms usually allow shelves to be adjusted for optimal height.
  • Make sure favorite furniture is back friendly. Most everyone has a favorite chair or resting place, and most of those places can be customized with pillows or supports that keep the back patient's posture correct.
  • Eliminate stairs. Many people with back pain have a tough time negotiating stairs because of the repeated impact of moving up and down. If a bedroom or home office can be relocated to the first floor that could save a lot of energy and strain.

Remember, the goal is not to eliminate all activity (movement and exercise are good for the back), just to eliminate or reduce movements that make the back pain worse.

For more ideas about how to make your home more comfortable, read Mattresses for Back Conditions and Pillow Support and Comfort.

Re-allocate chores to fit everyone's ability

Most people want to feel useful and appreciated for their efforts, and people with back pain are no different. The key is to acknowledge that, while they may have some temporary or long-term limitations on what activities they can do, they can take on new responsibilities that don’t impose physical hardship.

  • Divvy up high and low activity chores. In any household there are jobs that require more mental power and less physical work (cooking, paying the bills) and others that rely on muscle power (vacuuming, taking the garbage out). After listing all the weekly chores, suggest that the family member with back pain choose a few that they can do, and you figure out how to do the rest.
  • Hire someone for heavy manual labor. Rather than avoid a job that requires lifting or bending, consider hiring someone to move furniture or clean out the garage. A small investment will get infrequent tasks accomplished.
  • Take on or minimize driving. Driving (getting in and out of the car, constantly looking over one’s shoulder) with back pain can be difficult thanks to all of the getting in and out of the car, constantly looking over one’s shoulder, and other typical driving motions. With a little planning, trips can be minimized. Better yet, avoid driving altogether by using the Internet to make purchases or asking a trusted friend to do your grocery shopping or small errands when they do theirs.

Help keep back rehabilitation on track

Showing that you understand and will help with someone's rehabilitation is a great show of support, and will most likely lift both their spirit and physical well-being.

  • Be a rehab buddy. Offer to join in, whether it is an exercise program, a commitment to meditation, or learning about a new hobby. Interest equals empathy.
  • Develop reminder systems. Remembering to take medication or get up every hour to move around has never been easier. If you are technologically inclined, program your loved one's computer, cell phone, or watch to remind them to do what needs to be done.
  • Get healthy together. Fixing a nutritious lunch or dinner can underscore the commitment to better health, as well as provide a great way to socialize.

For more tips, see Food for Thought: Diet and Nutrition for a Healthy Back and Exercise Ball Therapy for Lower Back Pain Relief.

Evaluate and re-equip the office

If you have a home office or care for a co-worker, there are things you can do to help minimize back pain for somebody during work hours. Much like how the home has to be outfitted a little differently, the comfort level of everyone's workspace can usually be improved. The biggest challenge is to find the right chair so that a colleague with back pain can work comfortably. Many insurance companies will cover the cost of chair supports or even different chairs if medically necessary.

  • Use an ergonomic chair or back support. Maintaining correct posture is much easier if the chair aligns rather than hurts. Many office furniture manufacturers have a full line of ergonomic chairs in both traditional and non-traditional (e.g., kneeling or standing) styles.
  • Make sure peripheral items are easy to use and see. Office environmental factors like lighting and the position of the computer can also impact spine health. A mix of overhead and spot lighting eliminates eye and neck strain, and a monitor screen that is slightly lower than eye level will cut down on overarching or slouching.

Many people who live with chronic pain or are recovering from surgery need short-term assistance. This is particularly true for those with back pain, who tend to suffer both physically and emotionally. By helping friends and family members in large and small ways we speed their recovery and show we are personally invested in their health.

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