Hi, I am now single, now, and trying to make better choices about a new partner. Being in chronic pain and knowing this is going to be life for me, unless that miracle new spine they are growing for me at Walmart works ;} out...
that this reality for me. I don't if I should give up on trying to find a supportive partner or look for a very special type of person and hope he shows up for me...
While my marriage had its issues prior to my chronic back pain and round of surgeries etc that started 5 years, I do think my chronic pain had a huge negative impact on my marriage. I was wondering if others have experienced this as well and how they dealt with it.
My husband kind of took it as personal affront and inconvenience to him that I could not function as "the engine that could" as I once did. I don't think he believed me, and he felt taking care of me on any level was not for him. And really resented I could not care for him as I once did.
It lead me to leave, knowing that he could not understand my experience or be there to support me.. and would just continue to more deeply resent me, for the fact that I struggled to put dishes in the dishwasher, asked for help carrying the groceries, and had to leave a party early, etc.
How have other people dealt with this in their primary love relationships- and did it/ does it have an impact? Have you gone through counseling? Just put up with it? Had a supportive partner? Gotten divorced? I don't believe I am alone here in this experience.