Welcome, Friend!

It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!

Veritas-Health LLC has recently released patient forums to our Arthritis-Health web site.

Please visit http://www.arthritis-health.com/forum

There are several patient story videos on Spine-Health that talk about Arthritis. Search on Patient stories
Protect anonymity
We strongly suggest that members do not include their email addresses. Once that is published , your email address is available to anyone on the internet , including hackers.

All discussions and comments that contain an external URL will be automatically moved to the spam queue. No external URL pointing to a medical web site is permitted. Forum rules also indicate that you need prior moderator approval. If you are going to post an external URL, contact one of the moderators to get their approval.
Attention New Members
Your initial discussion or comment automatically is sent to a moderator's approval queue before it can be published.
There are no medical professionals on this forum side of the site. Therefore, no one is capable or permitted to provide any type of medical advice.
This includes any analysis, interpretation, or advice based on any diagnostic test

Is doctor an ageist or just insensitive

dolly43ddolly43 Posts: 1
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:46 AM in Matters of the Heart

I don't have any major health issues right now, at least I dont believe I do, but every now and then I'll see my doctor for various reasons. This time I went in, because I wanted to discuss the results he had received from the specialist that I had gone to see for chronic sore throats. Fortunately, it was determined that the main cause of my throat issues were a poor diet, and acid reflux. I also have to try to control my voice throughout the day so that I am not straining it ( I work in a call center, so it is brutal, call after call and seniors who can't hear anything forces one to raise their voice and use their voice more than normal.)

Anway, as my doctor and I were going over the results he proceeded to point out that Acid Refux was one of the reasons for my reoccuring throat issues, and then stated that is occurs with "age". Now this would not have bothered me, had it been the first time that he said it, but as of recently every time that I go in he mentions "age". Once I went in with swollen toes, and he determined the cause of this was due to the improper shoes that I wore, as well as, you guessed it "age." "As we get older, the bones break down, become brittle, and are not as strong as they used to be."

I realize that I am getting older, we all are, but I do believe that what is most important is how well we take care of ourselves as we age, since we cannot avoid ageing itself. I try to do a pretty good job of taking care of myself, but yet he mentions "age", during every visit. I have told him once that it makes me feel "old" when he talks about about age,but he continues to do so.

What do you think that I should do? Tell him firmly to refrain from talking about age, or just find myself another doctor? NOw, it is true that I have known this man for over 35 years now, since I was a very young girl, but still it annoys me when he continues to bring up the "age" issue.

Any idea, as to why he keeps bringing age up? Is he trying to tell me something, or could it be that he is simply projecting the fact that he is getting old onto me? Funny, I don't think he brings the age issue with his other patients.


  • joking I hope??? As we age there are many things which start to ail which are directly related to that fact. How can your doctor do his job if he can't mention 'age' as a contributing factor.

    For example: You go to the doctor with knee pain and you are 70 years old and you have no family history of knee pain. Is he not to explore the possibility of arthritis which might be due to age?

  • I've had numerous times where issues of mine are pre-stated with "but at your age", or "given your age" to emphasize that some things are expected "due to age"...

    Once I past 45, this "comment" was injected in most conversations with my doctor. Am I hurt or insulted by it? NO!! I *am* getting older, and the warranty starts to run out on various parts of us!! I was already told parts of my spine are that of a 90 year old! Oy-vay!!!

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • I think I understand the concern. How do you know if the problem is really due to age or if the doctor is just giving this standard answer? When I was a kid and complained to mom about some pain her standard answer was "then don't do that". Very few bandaids in our house and even fewer trips to doctor.

    Dolly I'm wondering why you think he doesn't tell other people this?
  • Um, he's telling you this because it's true. You are getting to the age where things are starting to change. As you reach 40, 45, you start to run into age related issues.

    At 43, it's hitting me head-on, and I can hardly believe what a shock it is.

  • At 21, I was too young to have a problem with my back.

    Now at 49, I have a Dr, who keeps letting me know that I need to be aware of my age, and how things are going to change in the next few years. Am I upset - Not in the least! I would rather have honest answers, than sugar coated ones.
Sign In or Register to comment.