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Lower back surgery and now I got rear ended...

mapchanatpittmmapchanatpitt Posts: 1
edited 05/18/2015 - 8:48 PM in Lower Back Pain

Just over two years ago, I had lower back surgery (Laminectomy/Microdiscectomy) on my L3-4. The pain was so bad for years that eventually I had to start walking with a cane and having my wife help me get out of bed and dress me. I was only 28 years old. She was 8 or 9 months pregnant when I finally had my surgery done. Instead of me helping her, she was helping me the majority of the time. I couldn't have asked for a more patient wife.

The surgery went well. The initial soreness post surgery stuff around for a month or so but the paralyzing pain I had dealt with for years and the numbness down my left side was gone. Life started to become easier again. I began doing normal things that I couldn't do for quite some time.

Then last October I was rear ended at a stop light by someone who wasn't watching ahead of them. I was at a complete stop. There is really no way for me to tell how fast the guy was going when he hit me. The bumper damage on the car was fairly minimal, but we did need another bumper on the car. I have been to my personal physician, the surgeon who did my surgery, an EMG specialist (for numbness and tingling I was feeling,) a pain specialist and a physical therapist.

I started doing the injections again. They seem to provide temporary help but it doesn't 100% make all the pain disappear. I take several pills regularly to help with easing pain and to help with sleeping. I can only sleep on my right side at night, away from my wife. She thinks that I don't want to be intimate with her or that I don't want to hold her at night anymore, but it's solely because I can't sleep on my right side because of the pain. Just recently, a whole new pain has started in both my right knee and hip. I don't know if it's a posture related pain for the way I have been walking, sleeping, or favoring a specific way I stand because of the back pain, but my guess is that it could have something to do with it?

The surgeon says there is nothing that surgery can do to help with my back pain. His physician's assistant let me know that there is just new inflammation around the area of where my Laminectomy/Microdiscectomy was done since the accident. How long can I expect this pain to continue? The insurance company offered me a $15,000 check to settle the matter. I never even contacted them. A letter randomly came in the mail on day stating that they wanted to settle the matter with me and they hoped that this check would be sufficient, which at the moment would certainly be more than sufficient to cover the medical bills temporarily.

What if I do need surgery down the road? What if the knee and hip pain are related? What if those pains get worse? What if this isn't something that will just go away on it's own? How long can pain like this last, post-accident? I feel like I am heading right back towards the same road I was unfortunately on for so long. I find myself using the back brace around the house a lot more now. Things just aren't as easy again and little by little feel like they are getting worse again.

It's not about the money or the amount of the check they've sent me. I just don't want to hurt anymore. Is this check something I should accept? I'm looking for someone with a medical background, primarily lower back pain, who can help me make the right decision with this scenario.

Will I need additional compensation down the road that this $15,000 check won't cover? Everyone keeps saying "talk to an attorney," but I feel like the two attorneys my wife and I spoke to were more about the "money" than getting me the help that I need long term. We carry full tort coverage for this exact reason. I'm so frustrated and confused as to what to do.

There is nobody on the forum medically qualified, any responses will be personal experiences only



  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 5,476
    edited 05/18/2015 - 11:54 PM
    Your doctor would be best for guidance as he only one medically qualified to offer opinion about your painful situation and your probable future.

    My comment is re' your wife's feelings as you turn away from her in bed....due to only able to sleep on your right side.
    Is it possible to switch sides of the bed?

    You commented how helpful and patient she has been.
    If you could at least face her...hold her hands....brush the hair from her eyes.......talk to her intimately ...about her also, she may feel more close to you and a part of you.
    If she feels rejected by you...well, that can be a hurtful feeling.

    I'm betting she doesn't expect acrobatics in the bed....but acceptance and reassurance as your wife ....and reassurance that you include her as much as possible in your life and thoughts...and that you are interested in her life and thoughts.

    For yourself, I have found working at relationship with those who love us ...and those we love....to be very good medicine.

    I wish you and your wife the very best as you continue to work things through.
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