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A lot at once and not getting better

I had an L4-L5 fusion in Nov 18 that didn’t go well. The surgeon didn’t do stuff he was supposed to and other things went wrong. I was out of work for 12 weeks. I am now facing a second surgery in June, likely L4-S1 (due to the new damage at L5). The symptoms I’m experiencing have me on a work from home medical accommodation.

I was re-orged into my role in Jan 18 doing work I’ve never done before with a new boss who has never managed before. The relationship has been bad from the start and has only gotten worse. She has changed my responsibilities to less favorable work “that you can do from home” (although my peers frequently work from home without accommodation) and says I have gaps because I am “out” (“missed a drive by meeting”, “it was a hallway conversation”, etc). I’ve approached HR multiple times with zero help. I even took advantage of my company’s employee assistance program and went to see a counselor who helped some, but also said I was already using all of the “tools” she had to offer in the situation.

I’m sick all the time, my stomach is a wreck, and it’s not helping my pain levels AT ALL, which leads to just being so darned sad/down all the time. I live on the verge of tears. (I get that it’s a choice, but all of the “positive thinking” memes aren’t helpful) I’ve been with my company for 10 years and am actively looking for a new position, but I live in fear of this person firing me because I had an extra space in meeting notes I sent out (yes, actual feedback and the space was deliberate to have a break in a bulleted list). My daughters and I can’t be without health insurance and it terrifies me.

Also, my only pain treatment right now is Tylenol. NSAIDs were wrecking my stomach even worse and I can’t take anything prescription and still function. 

It is just so much and I’m exhausted of trying to bad-a.. my way through.



  • Bagdobs, I honestly feel for you. Some options are available though such as FMLA ,short term disability, was this a workman’s comp accident? If so a workman’s comp attorney would be a life saver! Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help...David


    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator

  • DavidG, thank you. All my FMLA was used up with the Nov botched surgery and it wasn’t an accident. I do have short term disability, which I’m grateful for, but if I get fired, that goes away. I have a ton of documentation around her behavior, but don’t know if it will be enough. 

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  • Bagdobs, you can get your FMLA extended with paperwork by your MD. As far as short term disability, speak with HR. If no resolution, you might want to speak with a disability attorney!...David


    Veritas-Health Forum Moderator

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