FIRST and FOREMOST.... THANK YOU SO MUCH for the Happy Birthday's!!! It meant the world to me and I appreciate the kind thoughts.... I really mean that.
BUT.... it hasn't been the best of evenings. i will try to keep this as brief as possible without leaving out anything important. This has NOTHING to do with my back, and EVERYTHING to do with my heart breaking.
I know on the old site I had mentioned my father on more than one occassion. He was an amazingly handsome man who I am fiercely proud of.... he was a career Marine, a Sheriff's officer. A Man's man if you will. But, he was also and alchohlic who was terribly abusive both physically and emotionally. I know alot of you know about my 1st husband's suicide... he took his life with a gun and I found him. Well, my father made that a fear of mine at a very young age as he would call me up at night, drunk, when I was only 10 and tell me that he loved me but that he was going to shoot himself. What kind of thing is that to lay at the feet of a child? Anyway, so suicide by self inflicted gunshot was always something I was terrified of.
I'm sorry if I;m rambling. I'll get on with it.
About 9 years ago, after not hearing from my father for almost 7 years, he was run off the road by an overloaded 18 wheeler. His truck flipped 7 times and landed upside down. He sustained severe head trauma and was almost killed. If other drivers had not stopped to help him, and to cut the seatbelt that was choking him to death, he would have died. But he lived, and was lifewatch lifted to a hospital in Tyler Texas. At this point I jumped in my car and was right at his bedside every moment until he was out of intensive care. I felt like God had used this horrible accident to give me a 2nd chance at SOME kind of relationship with this man... my father.
Up until the past year and a half his SISTER (who used to not want to have ANYTHING to do with him) has moved him from the Assisted Living Facility that he WAS at and will not tell me how I can find him. She is KEEPING my father from me. I have tried to do people searches to find him with no result and run into the same dead ends.
So I called her this morning, taking a chance that maybe he was living with her and that maybe if I blocked my phone number from the caller ID that MAYBE I might get to at least talk to him and know he is ok. Well, she answered the phone. I tell her it's me. I tell her that I would really love to talk to my father since it is my Birthday and he has been on my mind. She said that maybe she could get my phone number and have him to call me later. I said "like you said last Christmas"!?? (I called her then trying to reach him to tell him I loved him and Merry Xmas). but I never got a call back.
WELL, this evening, right after Mike went in to work,the phone rang at 815pm and it was her. She CALLED HIM BY 3WAY and sat on the phone with us. I said "daddy is that you"?? I told him how much I loved him and how I have been trying for over a year to find him. I said do you still live where you used to? SHE THEN SAYS THAT WE WON"T BE ASKING HIM ABOUT HIS PHONE NUMBER OR ADDRESS!! I said "I don't need you to referee" and to pipe down so that I could speak to my FATHER not her! He was CRYING after I said that I had been trying to find him!! CRYING!!! Once dad hung up the phone and it was just me and that bitch I told her a storm was coming and it's name is AMY!!! That one of these days very soon that she would be dealing with my attorney and with the police. If I had to go down there and go to the police and tell them that she is keeping my handicapped, mentally "challenged" due to a closed head trauma, father held hostage in some other location refusing to let me have a method of reaching him, that that was what was coming... and soon. I told her that I would meet her in Hell as she hides her actions behind the bible. I told her that God doesn't like people who meddle in families and who cause others pain for her own enjoyment. I told her what a hippocrate she was and that this is only the beginning!!
I KNEW she was keeping him from me but I didn't REALLY know until she made the comments about the "rules" for our phone conversation. I am furious and deeply hurt all at the same time. I am SO glad that I heard his voice and that he heard mine. He is MY FATHER!!! She has NO BLOODY RIGHT to do what she is doing.
I called my older sister and just balled about all that happened. she along with the rest of his family, doesn'thave anything to do with him anymore due to traumatic event after traumatic event with him.... I AM THE ONLY ONE beating down his door to be in his life and hearing him cry like that just broke my heart and infuriated me at what she is doing.
SO, i will be calling a girlfriend from Junior High and High School tomorrow. She is married to an attorney and his father is a retired judge. My sister suggested that I contact the VA Administration as he is getting benefits sent somewhere. I have his social security number and DOB. ARE THERE ANY SUGGESTIONS FROM AN VETS???? WHO SHOULD I CALL? WHAT SHOULD I ASK??
I am just a 9 year old girl right now who wants her daddy, however silly that might sound. I need this FOR ME. I need to beable to pick up the phone and know he is ok.
Im so sorry for going on and on but it is just pouring out of me right now.... Down my face and in words right here.
Please, if any one can offer me some suggestions, legal or otherwise, I just can't tell you how much I would apprecaite it. I know there is a large Veterans community here and right now I need you.... the daughter of a 28 year career marine. Please help me if you can.
God bless and Im sorry again,