I posted on here a long time ago. As you may recall, one of my good friends has been struggling with chronic pain for a while, and I've been trying to learn as much as I can about how to be a good friend to him with regard to his pain.
I found a website online, and I'd like to get your response to what it said to do:
"Help someone with chronic pain get distracted from thinking always about the pain. Encourage them to do something fun - such as watching a comedy, painting, reading, and the like. Sometimes, conversing with them about happy memories make them temporarily forget about the pain they are feeling. Don't bring up their pain a lot. Sharing too much can cause them to feel overwhelmed, helpless, or depressed."
This is the exact opposite of the approach I've been taking with my friend. I always bring his pain up by asking him how he feels or how he's been doing since I've seen him last. He usually runs with it once I bring it up and we end up talking for an hour or so about it. It seems like having these conversations has also made us closer friends. However, he does get very upset and cries. I don't want to depress him or make him feel worse.