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Help, They cant, Giving up, Its over

dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 11,348
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:03 AM in Depression and Coping
Ok, so you are wondering what is this subject thread all about.
I've just taken a few key words out of many posts I've seen over the past couple of years.

Help People describing their current situation and are looking for some member to give them some answers that could make things better.

They Cant When people say that their doctors tell them there is nothing they can do..

Giving up Members saying that they can not continue with the pain and problems. They basically are throwing in the towel

Its over Because of my spinal problem, my life is over

I am sure all of you are familiar with these statements and perhaps at times felt the exact way. Its not that unusual to feel that way at times. Spinal problems and their impacts can cause a lot of disruption in our lives.

I would like to let all members know that we are all in the same boat so to speak. We do try to help each other when we can. Its always a two way street. I always respect others that when they ask for help and get some assistance that they then always try to help others.

No answer
There are many times when a specific condition does not warrant a specific action. That does not mean that "THEY", the medical field, doctors CANT. Many times there are situations where surgery is not the answer, but that doesnt mean there is nothing they can do. There are so many options available today besides surgery.

Giving up... Well thats easy to do. You've been through many doctors, had a surgery or two, been through many rounds of conservative treatments, been on so many different medications and still, you are in PAIN
Its hard to come up with an answer here. All I do know is that once any one of us give up, its the beginning of the end. We all have to be fighters and be strong NOT to allow the pain and discomfort to consume our lives.

Its Over I think this is the one area that always gets me mad. Because of a spinal condition or surgery, we may not be able to return to do the things we did before.
I know, I've been there, I've been told about the things I can or should no longer do. But its far from over. Instead, we need to focus in on things that we can still do or new ways. Trying something different. For example, A Skydiver just had spinal surgery and fusion. They can no longer jump from planes. Is it over for them? No, instead, they can help teach others on how and what to do. This is just an example and maybe not a good one. But my point is, its Never over

Some of you who read through this might be saying What is this person dilauro saying, he doesnt know what its like.... Or you might think this doesnt make sense.

July 3, 1978 - my first spinal surgery, October 31, 2011 - a total left hip replacement. Add on 10 or so other spinal or joint surgeries, tack on countless number of flareups.

The one major thing that has gotten me through all of this has been my POSITIVE outlook. I will be honest and say that in the beginning, I didnt have this outlook, but it didnt take long for me to realize that I do have the power to control so many things. I let the medical field do what they needed to do and then it was up to me to make the best of everything.

Looking up, you can see the sky and so much more... sure beats looking down!
Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com


  • I to have kept a positive attitude thru it all. I just keep telling myself I have family that needs me and I will be D*** if my boys are gonna grow up with a mom that just sits by and watches life pass her and them by. I was a active person before all this and I will be one again maybe with some modifications but I will be active again. I have my SCS and am looking forward to no more pills and no longer living in a cloud. I am looking for when all is cleared and doc says enjoy life just be careful I want to go on a bike ride and go on vacation and there is nothing gonna stop me from thinking like this or from ruining my dreams. I believe people get to the point where they let all the negativity run thier lives and give in to all the nay sayers. People need to realize that "yes you have a problem, yes you have to change somethings, but no it doesn't have to change who you are and what you mean to others." Sorry I just rambled :) but this is a subject that means something to me and something that I believe in. Hope this helps people and gives people something to think about.
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