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What is the ingredient for a good doctor

dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 12,772
So many of use have been to multiple doctors. We have seen the good and we have seen the bad. But what really makes the difference between good and bad? Iis it our needs at the time? Do we need more medication and when we ask the doctor they refuse....So are they the bad one?

Please tell us , from your point of view, it doesnt matter what others may think

What is it that you look into a doctor to hep you along the way.

And then what is ti that you dont want in a doctor
Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 


  • Simply looking for a doctor who can find the best posible fix and not masking the pain with life long medications ,
    Nobody i know goes to any dr because they want meds ! I would prefer a fix without any meds any day !

    What i dont want in a doctor is who would give false hope performing a surgery just because its something new and him performing such surgery becomes more important then the long term outcome ,

    A good dr often will refuse to perform surgery even as a patient might become angry and frustrated when dr knows surgery is not always the best answer,

    I am not looking for a friendly dr as i am not there to make friends and neither is he, Friendly doctor dont always mean good doctor just means he might be a good listener but might be lacking in performing complicated surgery needed,

    Honesty helps in a doctor when surgery creates complications that was not expected and hiding behind the title MD is not what i need in any doctor,
    Flexicore ADR 2004 resulting nerve damage l4l5 Fusion 2006 same level, 2009 hardware removal with lami !
    2012 scs implant ,
  • My NS will not do surgery at all if it is not necessary. I have practically begged him to fuse L5-S1 cause my legs were hurting so bad after my last fusion in june. The MRI showed that it was barely herniated and that shouldn't be the cause of my pain. It was rough but the pain my left leg subsided, but my right leg continued to hurt. He orderd another MRI and it proved the my pain was from the herniation of L5-S1. This time the disc protusion was pressing on some nerves and it could be clearly seen on the MRI pictures.

    He is also very compassionate but blunt at the same time. He doesn't sugar coat anything. He won't tell you what you want to hear, but at the same time he understood that I didn't have any insurance at my last appointment so he didn't charge me for it. He knows I need surgery to fix my right leg, so he said he woudn't document anything about it so to keep from becoming a prexisting condition when my new health insurance kicks in. He promised me that he could get around the prexisting condition rule. He truly cares about his patients. I have never met a doctor in my life like my NS.

    I think a good doctor will look out for their patient best interests, even if that means we are not always satisfied with the outcome.
    Discectomies 05/08 and 04/11, fusions L4-5 Feb 9,2012 and L3-L4 June 28,2012, Staph infection washout 3/2/2012, Bulged L5-S1. SCS trial on January 17th, 2014, which was a success! Permanent SCS on February 20th.
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  • Shell2ySShell2y Posts: 80
    edited 12/05/2012 - 1:25 PM
    Because of serious and ongoing health issues with my daughter, not to mention my spinal issues, i have lots of experiences with drs, specialists and surgeons and have very clear ideas on this. I like Drs who work with you to make decisions, address issues and manage chronic illness or pain. Also who recognises the emotional and personal issues of health problems while still staying calm and focused, and explaining things clearly and directly, so not sugar coating. They need to treat you with respect, explain things in plain English avoiding jargon, while not treating you as if you are dumb. The best Dr I have ever known is actually my daughters paediatric neurologist. He did all of the above, even ensuring that whenever he sent a letter back to our local dr or another specialist, he automatically copied us in at our home address, including any test results, ensured that he could always could be contacted through his office or the hospital if we wanted to speak to him, and made a big effort to build up a rapport with our daughter. When we needed to make a decision he gave us time to do this, and if we had supplementary questions or even suggestions, he would discuss. After our first appointment and discussion about the diagnosis, he even said that we should go and research on the Internet if we wanted to, there would be lots of information, and if there was anything we didn't understand from this or any approach we wanted to discuss, just contact him. He was great and as a result we had great results.
  • is one who takes the time to explain things in terms that you understand, and will take the time to explain or answer questions without rushing you out of the office. my current surgeon will spend time to explain anything i question, and come up with ways to explain it that i understand, he will get more technical if i want more technical, and use analogies if its not quite making sense. plus, he doesn't throw surgery out there to anyone who sees him. i've had other people i know go see him, and he told them not to do surgery, where-as i was recommended for the surgery, so i know he's not knife happy.

    what i don't like is a doc who glosses over the details and tries to set you up for surgery, and spends more time pushing to pick a date than he does explaining why he wants to do the surgery. (had a 2nd opinion like this, and the sad thing, he's got an amazing reputation and i have friends who loved him.... but goes to show everyone has different preferences on the type of doc they trust.)
    Microdisectomy / hemi-laminectomy 6/2010 and revision 10/2010
    Cervical fusion C4-5 and C5-6 9/2011
    Lumbar Fusion L5-S1 6/2012
  • Puts patient / Dr relationship before legal, ego or revenue considerations.
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  • I find that nowadays I look for Dr's who are good at communicating.

    I need a Dr who can *explain* stuff to me.

    Or who will discuss things in detail with me.

    Who will weigh up the pros and cons of different treatment options.

    If he or she talks to me properly about my questions etc, then I'm pretty happy.

    I really like this too "Believes the patient is best advocate and knows body even better than doctor ( in general terms)" (See above)

    Yep! A Dr who believes you when you say what your body feels and does... even if the "textbook" says your body *should* be behaving differently!! lol
    Happiness is your chronic pain being less than it usually is...

    Migraines and so many herniated discs (the same ones over and over) that I have literally stopped counting
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