I'm scheduled for an ALIF with cadaver graft and no instrumentation December 15. I'm an RN but have been staying home with my now 2-yr-old since she was born due to back issues.
I developed nerve pain in my right hip and down my leg about 15 months ago after coping with back issues for about 8 years. It's severe when lying down in most positions, and this pain and lack of sleep is what prompted me to get help and consider surgery.
I don't have a lot of instability but my disc space at L5/S1 is so narrowed that the surgeon thinks a fusion is the best option to prop up the space again, particularly because the pain is so positional.
Is there anyone here who has had a fusion when they have a little kidlet at home? I understand obviously that I won't be able to care for her- she's going to have to go to daycare full time for at least a couple of months, and my fabulous husband will have to do all the parenting after he gets home from work.
I'm struggling with the ways this will impact her and not knowing what things will be like after surgery or for how long. Like most humans, I abhor uncertainty.
I know kids are resilient, but I don't want her to have to be this resilient at two! She's a strong little kid and good at playing by herself and is super verbal for her age so she can tell us how she's feeling and what she needs, but we've been so inseparable since her birth, and this adjustment will be hard for both of us.
Im afraid of how I will be able to still snuggle after surgery without her hurting me. I know I'll be tired from lack of sleep for a while and I'm worried I won't be able to be patient with her.
Anyone here with similar experiences and words of hope or encouragement or practical advice?