I am in line for a possible disk replacement at one level and fusion at another. This would be done via a study. I am lucky if I can get on with this group. All medical expenses will be paid, but way beyond that on the cool scale is the fact that this doctor has been doing disc replacements for years in Europe, even multi-level with success. So , needless to say I would like to try this before a two level fusion.
I am bummed because of my father's opinion on the subject. My dad has had two back surgeries. I asked him which ones, but I don't think he paid much attention to titles. I am pretty sure that he had a discectomy and then a laminectomy about 2 years apart from each other, about 10 years ago. He states that he is in bad pain now and he is adamantly against surgery of any kind. He is of course allowed his opinion and I can respect that.
He was traveling through town tonight and so we met up at my sister's house for dinner. I was talking with the group about the possibility of this disc replacement surgery when he got upset. He basically said "no offense, but you don't know what pain is. You are too young to know real pain."
This really offended me. You would think that out of all of my family members he would be the one to commiserate or sympathize. Nope, not at all.
I told him that I was highly offended and walked out so I could cool off. I returned and told him I love him, but I no longer value his opinion on my spine health since he is obviously closed minded about it and that I no longer wished to discuss this "sore" subject. Yeah, I am a little bit of a smart a$$.
I really does hurt my feelings for him to say this though. I am going to just know that he is limited by his thought, and that his thought tells him that this won't be good for me. I am going to love him through and in spite of his ignorance.
Thank all of you for being here. I am so very grateful for your presence. Thanks for reading.