I am a recent back surgery warrior...I have a beautiful scar running down my spine and I'm having some trouble adjusting to post-op life. I had a Posterior Discectomy, Posterior Fusion, PLIF, TSRH, Poster Iliac graft requiring 3 rods and 6 screws. I am 24 years old and had my surgery on Nov 19th. So far I am recovering well with the help and support of my family and wonderful boyfriend.
I have a few things that I am having difficulties with and was wondering if anyone out there may have any advise from previous experience. For starters, I am going stir crazy from sitting still and not doing anything to potentionally jepordize my healing, I am not used to having to take it easy and am crawling the walls trying to find productive tasks to do that help keep me from feeling completely reliable on someone to help me out day to day. I already have to be bathed, have someone assist me in the bathroom, assist with dressing myself...I'm basically a 24 yo infant these days haha I try to make light of things so they don't seem so depressing but it is difficult. Another issue is that my boyfriend is literally terrified to touch me thinking he is going to break me or something. Bless his heart he has been so supportive and helpful during all of this, but I know that his physical needs are not being met in fear of injuring me. Anyone out there know how I can assure him that he isn't going to break me if we are intimate and that even though I'm still fresh from surgery and healing doesn't mean our sex life has to be put on hold for an indefinate time? Any advise would be much appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this