I'm facing ACDF surgery for two herniated disks that are pressing into my spinal cord with evidence of myelomalacia. I'm also the primary parent for our 5yo and 15yo granddaughters, who we're raising.
The 5yo is a very active, boisterous, highly affectionate tomboy who is prone to doing things such as running over and jumping up on me when I pick her up from daycare, giving very hard hugs around my neck, etc. I'm also the "mom" who she's used to doing a lot of things with her (helping her in the bath, singing the bedtime songs, etc), plus she is just up my butt all the time -- "Abuela, come here!! Abuela, look at me!! AAAABUELLLLLLLLLLLAAAAAA!!!"
The 15yo is a great kid overall but is still well established in that typical high-drama teen world of thinking that the universe revolves around her and her needs, no matter what others' circumstances might be.
I'm worried about the 5yo accidentally hurting me, worried that I'm not going to be up to the attitude I'm likely to get from the teenager when I need her to take on more than her usual share of responsibility around the house (since it's nearly impossible to deal with the attitude just for what she's supposed to do normally!).
Any tips and tricks for navigating the wild and whacky world of parenting while recovering from back/neck surgery?