Being a new mommy at 40 was a challenge to begin with...People questioning why now? Was the 2ND most asked question. The 1st most asked...Why in your condition did you do it at 40?
Anyone knowing the briefest details of our lives know we wanted kids from the beginning of our marriage in 1992. Due to having Ovarian Cancer in 1996 the chances became very slim. I opted just to have the one ovary removed knowing quarterly exams/blood work would be required. Several unsuccessful pregnancies later and over $50k in procedures my OBGYN suggested I stop. Along with Cancer 2 spinal surgeries and 10 other surgeries had strained my body to the point of Chronic Fatigue & Chronic Pain.
Something always told me I'd be a mother at 40. Well, I wasn't wrong. Miss Mia was born to a family member that didn't want the "trouble or hassle" of raising a baby. Five days after her birth...10 days after my cervical fusion Miss Mia was in my home and neither "parent" came back for her.
Mia will be 2 yrs old next month and I admit this would've been so much easier 20 yrs ago but I would never ever regret her being here.
Here's the two major problems that have arose:
1- Constantly being criticized for taking on such a "hardship" (NOT MY WORDS) knowing my health is in such a terrible state.
2- How on Earth do you make a 2 yr old understand that her curling up beside me or on top of me hurts momma? She loves me greatly and wants my head leaned against hers so she can comb her fingers through my hair or my head laying on her chest so she can caress my face (I've got to hold my head up some not to put too much weight on her).
I do believe she knows something is wrong w/momma because she doesn't love on anyone the same as I.
I know this email is long & I'm sorry but some details were needed & I wanted to make sure I had all points covered.
ANY & ALL ADVISE ON RAISING A 2 YR OLD WHILE LIVING WITH ALL THIS PAIN WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED!