So my close friends know about all about my spinal issues as they were the ones that took care of my family during my recovery ... but many of my new coworkers etc do not. I now look very normal (thank goodness! I know I'm lucky), but I still have restrictions (lifting etc.). Everyday (no seriously everyday) my back issues come up. I honestly don't like to discuss it because my recovery was very difficult and I don't like to relive it. Some times its people who either have back issues or has a close family/friend with back issues and are just looking for advice and support. They seek me out, and that's fine. It's so nice to give advise, to be a listening ear and to offer suggestions. And usually they just want to make a connection with someone that can understand and I welcome that. However way too many times I run into someone who I think literally tries to "one up" me and it drives me bonkers. I don't understand it. Yes, people have varying degrees of spine problems./pain... but it isn't a competition, or at least it isn't an event I want to participate in. When this happens I usually just try to smile and say hmmm... yeah... that sounds painful... but really I'm thinking, "what is wrong with you, what kind of person prides themselves with their medical issues, get away from me." They obviously don't know the extent of my problems, and even if they did/do, seriously it isn't a comparison. So I basically just try to smile/nod and leave. I know I'm not the only one here who has experienced this... I'd love to hear how you handle it. So basically, looking for some advice.
33yo mom of two. My surgical history...preadolescence scoliosis, kyphosis, and a hot mess.... 5 spine surgeries and lots of items added I wasn't born with (titanium, peek, surgical steel). Guess cremation is out. TSA loves me.