I thought it might be nice to "meet" other chronic pain survivors who are also balancing parenting and younger age, I ow I have met several of you in some previous posts, but one thread might be easier. I am looking for people intested in support, tips, tricks, etc.
So I will happily start, I am 40, mom of twins, age seven. I have had some form of back pain their whole lives, with the chronic version in the past three years, two of which I had 3 surgeries on my back, including fusion. I am struggling with being the fun active mom I used to be, the creative work half the night person i always have been, to balancing what I can do now and taking the most of those moments. I also find as my increases throughout the day, my patience decreases. I have begun a few simple mindfulness exercises to help with the stress and deal with the anger I have towards my body.
Two things that this chronic pain has made special for my kids and i are long walks just talking everyday after school, when they really love to share their day and just soak in being with me, and I absolutely adore the amount of extra snuggle time I still get with my littles. They LOVE listening to chapter books while we snuggle when I can't last on my feet(can't sit more than 10 minutes, not even in a recliner), this usually lasts for at least a half hour and I often wonder if I would stop and take this much time to just lay and read with them if I had my energy and endurance back.
Something that has helped my marriage with this chronic pain is seeing my DH step up and step in doing so much more than I even thought he could manage. Most days it looks nothing like the way I did it, but the laundry is clean, food is on the table and the kids are happy. He has shown me what an amazing resourceful and patient man he truly is.