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I feel so negative....

Hello, I had ALIF surgery S-1, L-5. Just over a month ago. I am 35years old. I am feeling very negative and not happy about that. under a lot of stress,trying to be positive. I am married,with 3 children,not babies ...my husband is out of work,everyone is stressed,my kids see it and are being affected,nothing I can do at the moment. Just trying not to loose it or break down crying. I need to be in prayer,so much in my mind even that seems hard...i do not feel like myself...my kids go back to school next month,so much to be done....this is hard.


  • So sorry you are dealing with such stress! I felt that way too, for about 2 weeks, weeks 3 and 4 post op. I felt hopeless! I think you will turn a corner very soon! As you get stronger, I think it is easier to be optimistic. If you can, try to get outside near plants and trees, or nature of some kind. Even if it is only a few minutes. When you are resting, lie there and literally count the things that are good in your life, no matter how small. I will pray for you. Hang in there! You can do this!
  • Been there,done that..I have a 7 year old and felt like I was ready for the junk pile..Hang in there..As you feel better,the depression symptoms get better at the same rate..At least it did with me..But oh my,there was some very dark days..GL
  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 5,476
    Recovery is its own stress and you have issues added on to that. Sorry for all you are going through.

    One month post op isn't all that long.
    I would include the negative feelings and not feeling happy along with your other symptoms when you see your doctor.

    You mentioned prayer. Do you have a good friend or Pastor, or Pastor's wife...to be able to talk with and help you through this transition and or difficulty in your life?
    It is not all bad to break down and cry when emotions fill our hearts. I understand you might not want that seen by children, that you say are already being effected...but with a friend or people I mentioned above, it could be a good release.
    You can certainly vent in this site, also.
    You're not alone!

    You may feel some relief .
    Depression often accompanies spinal issues, but shouldn't be taken as normal. Maybe a therapist for short time while you transition post op.

    I wish you the very best! Please keep us posted on how you are doing!
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