I think that anyone who has been through spinal surgery (or for that fact any surgery) knows that after surgery you do need some assistance to get yourself back up and running.
For some folks, its easy, because you have spouses, significant others, friends, family who are going to be there for you the moment you leave the hospital until you can fend for yourself.
But so many do not have that luxury. More or less we are on our own. We know that we need help, we understand that we can not do it alone.... BUT, how can we do that?
For some, its a matter of pride. We never want to feel we are beholding to another person. And if we have to ask for help, then really we dont want it. We might just resent that. It would be good if people just offered the help.
But when you are recovering from surgery, it is safer to throw away that pride. There are too many things that you will need help with, you just will not be able to do it by yourself.
Wouldn't it be really nice, if you never had to worry if someone was going to help you! Friends are there to help you out without being asked, without being told, without thinking, just because they are your friend and want to be there with you in any way they can.....
Friendship and Love is such a special feeling. Cherish it.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences