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Wife needs help

HowiegHHowieg Posts: 1
edited 11/19/2015 - 8:34 AM in Lower Back Pain
We live in southwest Missouri Joplin, MO area. I am new to this forum so I am not sure if I am posting in right place. 5 days ago my wife was changing a light bulb fell off a small ladder. Her back on right side from neck to hip, across right t side of bsck all the way to her spine hurts. We have been doing what we can to treat at home but she is miserable. Our primary care doctor died unexpectedly he committed suicide due to early onset dementia, so his office closed without notice and has not reopened. As I am sure most of you know getting a same day appointment as a new patient is virtually impossible. My wife needs to see a doctor immediately, as her pain is interfering with her sleep and daily life. Urgent cares in our area do not want to deal with back pain, the ER in our area are not much better. We made a trip to ER two nights ago, no xrays or anything left with a script for 800mg.ibuprofen which my wife has already been taking and alternating with tylenol since falling. Once ER found out what my wife was there for, their entire demeanor changed, they treated my wife like crap. My wife has never been to ER for anything, she has been to urgent care a few times for sinus infection, bronchitis but never for any sort of pain when primary was unable to see her. Trying to find a new primary is hard either not accepting new patients or the wait for an appt is long, [edit], it took us a long time to find a primary we were happy with. What do we do, how can I get my wife help? She desperately needs to be seen, someone to help her with pain, she has never had pain medication except durng childbirth.


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  • 2dgs4cmpany22dgs4cmpany Posts: 200
    edited 11/19/2015 - 12:11 PM
    You poor thing! I mean it, my husband is the same way: it literally is painful for him to endure my pain and I can feel you feeling miserable.

    You can help. Go back to that er, or mini er, or get into a doctor. Go with her. Behave extremely rational. In fact, the more calm and business like you are, the better for your wife. She should explain her pain and how it is worse at what times. What she takes for it. And what her plan is...trying to get to Doctor (unless you are actually with the Doctor). Then you need to back her up. Explain this woman is a strong amazing wife and mother and not one to ever ask for help. Explain the only reason you are there is due to Doctor death..out of your control. Ask them to check their records and they will see you never have done this before. When they write a script the pharmacy could show at she never had stronger meds prescribed..you can prove you have never had this situation and need help! (I recommend this be used only in an emergency though, like can't move emergency).

    I bet your wife even down plays her pain because she doesn't want to cause you discomfort. Explain this to the doctors and look them in the eyes. Have your wife do the same. Pain cannot be hidden in someone's eyes. It cannot be faked. Do not leave without better pain management. And explain that..explain you need some pain management until you can see the doctor. Do not go in asking for a specific drug. Expect them (Doctor) to run test...I would guess X-ray or Mri..this is what happened to me because I could not walk..which was why they treated me..it was emergency.

    You can do this. In the mean time, I know it is not gonna be enough relief..but it helps: ice and heat. One or the other or sometimes both. Have her experiment. Heat was my favorite with elevated legs. Ice was my favorite for acute sharp pain and for that I recommend the Palmolive ice bag: empty small green Palmolive into double ziplock. Freeze flat. This became the best gel ice pack for me to lay on.

    Gosh I wish her remedy and comfort and peace of mind for you. Hugs. You are not alone. You are such a good man.
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