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Worried about my son

concerneddadcconcerneddad Posts: 2
edited 11/21/2015 - 8:46 PM in Chronic Pain
I'm worried about my 26 year old son and wanted to see if i can get feedback from anyone who may be familiar with his symptoms. My son left his job on medical leave over 2 years ago because he said the chronic severe discomfort (his wording) became too much to bear. he describes the discomfort as at times seeming to be alot of places but mostly seems to concentrate around his pelvis/hip. He has said he sometimes thinks his hip isn't hung right or something. He has had the most trouble i think in a sitting position, so he either stands or lays down. He says also he has had involuntary twitching of muscles in his arm and has had sudden loss of clear vision ( he can still see but everything seems to suddenly get more blurry). When he went on medical leave, he went to see a regular doctor who did an xray of his spine and told him it looked like he'd been in a wreck or something. My son had not been in a wreck though. The only traumas he can remember was once when he was in elementary or middle school, he fell a short distance out of a tree i think onto his bottom. I don't believe he ever went to a doctor about that. He also used to lift weights a fair amount and he says one time he was laying down bench pressing without a spotter and the weight came down on him. Again, I believe he didn't seem to be in so much pain that one would think there was something broken, so he didn't see a doctor. Anyway, the doctor said he was not a spine specialist and he might be mis-reading the x-rays. So, he went to a spine specialist and he's also been to a neurologist. Between the two he's had an MRI and a CT scan and both doctors said they found nothing remarkable. One said they saw a few minor annular tears and he just needed some physical therapy. The neurologist also said his arms were very weak. So he went to physical therapy (although he tells me he switched two or three times because he didn't like what they were doing, so maybe didn't do all he was supposed to or what he was supposed to). So, he got no relief from the physical therapy and quit. Eventually he lost his job and his medical insurance. So, I don't know what the problem could be or what he can do. He mostly lays on his back I think, says relaxing shoulders helps and just "letting go" of all muscle tensions. He only eats a variant of Soylent that he now makes himself (occasionally he'll eat sushi) and he thinks this dietary change has helped alot. He also added i think magnesium and some other natural supplements which he credits with helping. He does not use pain medication at all and doesn't like to use medications. When I go to see him, he usually has no trouble standing or alternately standing and sitting/laying for hours at a time, which just confuses me as he seems to not be in discomfort or pain, but I know, I've heard he could just be good a covering it up. It's just hard because now it's too the point where he has no income of his own and no insurance and.........just don't know how long any of his family , including me, can provide full support. Especially tough when I work around people everyday that have the more "obvious" disabilities, including some close friends with severe chronic pain, and they all work and earn a living. Anyway, I'd appreciate it if anyone can give any insights into what he might have and what can be done about it. I know many of you will probably want to only attack me for not being understanding of someone with chronic pain (I've read the letter to "normals" and the spoon theory), but I hope you'll spend more time trying to help me problem solve from the vast experience you guys have. I love my son and I want to see him healthy and happy and i understand he may never be completely healthy.


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  • Your concern is touching and only proves your a good Dad.
    At the risk of treading delicate grounds..delicately i would,suggest he has grown a little depressed.
    Trying the best he can, at not being a burden at first.. And losing a battle against pain can be discouraging.

    The pain can and will make persons seek a release from the constant burden of the sensation.
    Laying down, avoidance behaviors are normal to a spinal pain sufferer.
    Keep trying
    There will be answers!
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  • Can be difficult to live with, some spine problems are far more serious than others.
    Results from physical therapy can depend on how much work is put into it. Changing therapists because he didn't like what they were doing isn'the the best idea.....therapists follow the treatments ordered by the doctor and should be continued even at home or long after the official program ends.
    Laying around doing nothing is the worst thing someone with back problems can do. It lessens tolerance to activity, to increased muscle fatigue and wasting, and less tone and strength.
    My suggestion would be to get him in to see another spine surgeon, and follow his recommendations.

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