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Intimacy After Bilateral Discectomy

AnonymousUserAAnonymousUser Posts: 49,578
edited 06/11/2012 - 7:25 AM in Matters of the Heart
My doctor told me after my upcoming surgery (Dec. 5), no bending, lifting, or twisting for 6 weeks. He also said his general rule of thumb is "if it hurts, don't do it." I am wondering how long others waited until resuming intimacy with their partner. My surgery will be on L4/L5 areas.



  • everybody is different and so is their rate of healing and the extent of the surgery. For a discectomy, I think your doctor is right in an area of around 6 weeks if there isn't any complications. Be prepared to have pain afterwards. If you have a fusion, it would be longer before you are comfortable because the pain is very intense. Remember everyone's experience differs. There are books that show the safest positions in order to have less pain (Back in Control, A Conventional and Complimentary Prescription for Eliminating Back Pain, by David Borenstein,MD) ;)
  • I appreciate your response on such a touchy subject :)
    I'll check into the book @ amazon.
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  • :) in the meantime you might try kissing, caressing, rubbing and soft hugs. physical shows of love but without intercourse. >:D< you might be surprised at how exciting and rewarding this type of "lovemaking" can be! :X Jenny :)
  • I waited 10 days!!! It was great, my birthday. He was gently and slow and so good. So worth it!
  • I actually stumbled across this topic yesterday when I was researching something else. I can't remember if it was on this site spine-health or somewhere else. Just google sex after back surgery or something. Whatever site I came across gave helpful hints on different, comfortable positions based on what kind of back surgery you had and where the incision. Best part was that it was free advice rather than buying a book that you won't need after you heal from surgery.
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