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How to deal with the pain and feeling alone

kellyandcharkkellyandchar Posts: 10
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:43 AM in Lower Back Pain
Hi all this is my first post, I live in pain everyday as do all of you... but how do you deal with it and how do you deal with watching life pass us by? I have worked at the same job for 14 years and have suffered a long term work injuy. I am waiting on wc to approve and of cource they
have denied the surgery so now the lawyers are on it.
i have 2 herniated disc L4,L5 and s1 has a tear, constant left leg pain swelling of the leg numbness in my toes,mus spasams tender to the touch and so on...I ave found alot of comfort in reading all of your post and it helps me not feel so alone.

I started having problems last year in may with my back and out of fear of losing my job I tried to just deal with it and not go through w/c but in oct. I hurt my back worse and my new boss made me fill out the w/c paper work and life as not been the same since!!! I have a lawyer now to help deal with them and I have already met with the w/c attorney but now that the DR says I need to have a level one fusion they all of the sudden dont want to pay!!! the DR showed me the letter and I was so upset and I dont understand we already went over all of this but they want to see just how much of the surgery they are going to have to pay for, I have been at this job for 14 years and have gave more than 100% and now this is what I get!!! I worry everyday that when this is all done I will not have a job and then what I am a single mom and right now the DR will only let me work 2 hours a day (he lets me do this because he knows I am affraid of getting replaced) I just want to e fixed so I can go back to work and I am tired of being treated like I am just hanging out at home on vacation!!! I pray that w/c will do what is right but I am sure they wont without a fight!!! It just should not be like this

Thanks for any advice


  • It's rough you're going through not only a back injury but WC denial! Maybe you can get legal counsel or utilize your Union at work if you're in one. I hope it all works out for you. Keep us posted. Take care. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • Howdy Charlotte,

    First off, Welcome to Spine-Health!! You will find a wealth of information on here from fellow spiney's!

    Sorry to hear you are going through all this, and with WC to boot! I hope your lawyer is on top of this and all works out very soon. As to the job, I am equally sorry to hear what's going on there as well. I have almost 30 years with my government, and as of the 22nd of this month, I am officially retired under the disability retirement system. I am okay with that now, as my "brain" is on board. The main thing is this, most "jobs" even "careers" are subject to the move forward work machine. I found once they saw I couldn't physically do the job (law enforcement/pilot), I was gently eased off the radar if you will.

    You sound like your still "fixable" so hopefully you will get some good word towards your medical issues, and this will give your employer a light at the end of the tunnel that you will be back. I wish I could help, but know that many on here are more than happy to give a *hug*, be a sounding board, or just laugh or cry with you. Take care, and again welcome!!!

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
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  • Charlotte,
    These imposed changes are not easy and living in constant pain and adapting to our new normal takes time, resilience, knowledge and understanding. Pain is never how we imagined and the impact of change restricts who we are and what we are able to do, our hopes and dreams.

    In learning how to cope with pain we have to find what works for us and introduce more of that and some reality of the things we can no longer do while constantly adapting. With my 20 years of experience I continue to find those daily limits of capability a problem and that never goes away, the best chance is that we can develop our own freeway route, stay as close as possible to all those things, experience will provide an improving strategy.

    Not being able to work through pain is an imposition and you are doing well trying to sustain employment in challenging circumstance, and using all what you have learned so far to keep going. We can only change what we are able and watching our own and others life go past is upsetting, in having recognised and acknowledged this you are best placed to try and do something about it.

    As you say, many here have constant pain and still manage through that turmoil to be making some progress however small, pain is our lives and every improvement is disproportional to the effort needed to develop new ideas.

    Living this lifestyle does isolate us from normality, our friends, relationships and the working aspect, this is not a vacation, although some may view it in those terms they do not have to live your life, it is up to you to seek out the things you can do and use those as a platform for addition accomplishments, it is not easy. It must take a lot of effort to achieve your 2 hours of work a day and the doctor is aware how important any employment is to us, the key is to pace well, and find individuals who can support you, good friends encourage us.

    Your HR department should provided some information to your specific situation and be supportive, it is only natural to worry about continuing employment when you have not been informed with the relevant information.

    Only you know if the next step is invasive surgery or whatever you decide, you survive pain everyday and have a family to support you are doing a good job, progressing forward as and when you can.

    Take care and good luck.


  • insurance companies are always trying to cut costs, in many cases they hire a goon to deny surgery even though it is absolutely necessary. has your lawyer communicated with your surgeon. the surgeons aggressive stance may be all you will need to bring about your surgery.
    keep strong and just know we are all behind you.

  • Thankyou all so much!!! It really helps to read all your word of encouragement. I just got home form my two hours and I amd beat it is so hard to know that I use to be able to work 12 hour days with no problem but now 2 hours kills me, but I have faith that it time w/c will do the right thing because I am not going to give up and go away they are going to fix me so I can get back to a some what normal life. Some days are better then others and today is not one of the great ones but I will keep on pushing on till they approve my surgery..

    Thanko all again and I look forward to meeting some new friends here. It does feel good to know we are not alone !!!
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  • Char,

    With this site, you will never be alone! :-) We have nerves issues of all manner of causes, and since though different, so much is the same, it joins us all together like a huge family! Glad to see you see that now. *HUG*

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • Hi all I hope you are all as good as we can be...
    I wanted to update I got a call from my attorney and they have sent a letter for demand of treatment to the w/c insurance company!!! they have 10 days to agree to the treatment or we have to go to court :(
    lets hope we dont have to do that!! They said my dr, made it very clear that i need to have the disc o gram and the level one fusion, we have alread met with the w/c attorney back in march so there is not much else to say... so it will I guess it comes down to how long they want to put this off.

    In the past few weeks my leg pain has been very bad sometimes it gets to the point that I can barley walk and finding any pain relief is getting hard, i have muscle spasams, the pain goes all the way to my feet. headaches all the time this week not sleeping all night. I am so ready to have the surgery a little scared but something has to help.

    thanks for listening is has been a tough week.

    S1 TEAR
    pain is all the time now :(
  • I hope WC agrees without having it go to court. Sometimes the Insurance companies require physiotherapy and spinal injections before surgery but guess it will depend on your case and the discogram results.

    I have to find a Lawyer myself as I heard going on STD then LTD would be better than going on WC. I sometimes regret that decision as now Long term disability is forcing me to apply for Government and my work disability. They sure don't make it less stressful either way do they? Prayers you get the treatment you need asap. Take care. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • Charlotte you arent the first person who has been caught in the workers comp trap. Many people are so afraid of losing their job that they don't file properly. If you get hurt at work, by law in most states, you must fill out a report within 12/24 hours. If not you can end up voiding your coverage. But many bosses discourage claiming workers comp mainly because they don't want to look bad.

    Usually workers comp, which can be private insurance, self-insured(most unions) or state adminstered, works pretty well as long as the circumstances are clear and the paperwork is in order. My husband has had three knee surgeries and shoulder surgery under comp. Each time they had everything approved and paid out immediately. I had him in for one knee surgery in less than a week after the accident because he didn't want to miss hunting season!! A few calls to the comp nurse cleared the way.

    Because you waited so long to make the comp claim they are probably considering it a partially preexisting condition. When it's not a clear accident injury the coverage can get cloudy.

    Hopefully in your case they will just need a little nudging. Keep us posted.
  • Thanku so much for the advice... I go back to see my Dr. on tuesday so I hope to hear some news then. I just hope that is is good news so that we can get this goingand hopfully be better soon.
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